A man walking in the night slipped from a rock. Afraid that he would fall down thousands of feet, because he knew that place was a very deep valley, he took hold of a branch that was hanging over the rock. In the night all he couls see was a bottomless abyss. He shouted, his own shout reflected back--there was nobody to hear.
You can imagine that man and his whole night of scare. Every moment there was death, his hands were becoming cold, he was losing his gripand as the sun came out he looked down and he laughed. There was no abyss. Just six inches down there was a rock. He could have rested the whole night, slept well---the rock was big enough---but the whole night was a nightmare.
Fear is only six inches deep. Now it is up to you whether you want to go on cling to the branch and turn your life into a nightmare, or whether you would love to leave the branch and stand on your feet.
There is nothing to fear.
Lion was awakened from sleep by a Mouse running over his face. Rising up in anger, he caught him and was about to kill him, when the Mouse piteously entreated, saying: “If you would only spare my life, I would be sure to repay your kindness.” The Lion laughed and let him go.
It happened shortly after this that the Lion was caught by some hunters, who bound him by strong ropes to the ground. The Mouse, recognizing his roar,came up, and gnawed the rope with his teeth, and setting him free.
exclaimed: “You ridiculed the idea of my ever being able to help you, not expecting to receive from me any.
repayment of your favour; but now you know that it is possible for even a Mouse to confer benefits on a Lion.”
方法1.对着同事(但不是朋友练习
对着非朋友的同事发表演讲也很有用,因为这样可以增加压力,这样在实际演讲中就更容易克服压力了。同样的,演讲完后询问一下同事,有哪些不太清楚的地方,或者不太明白的地方。
方法2.录音
这是一个简单的建议,如果你讨厌从答录机里听到自己的声音,那么你也会讨厌听到自己练习演说。录下你的演说并进行审定,自己鉴定和改正演说中的漏洞和结巴部分,下次你才会更有进步。
方法3.对着朋友练习
对着朋友发表演讲,你会感到轻松。而且朋友可以给你提出问题,并且提供诚实坦白的反馈。如果一个朋友不足以提供这个服务,那么就找其他能够做到的人。发表完演讲后,问下你朋友,找出你的演讲中哪部份是最容易懂的,哪部分是最难懂的。
方法4.排练
如果有可能,在正式演讲前的几天前到你的演讲地点进行排练。要准确认真地练习演讲,假装下面有观众,有需要时应使用麦克风。如果你的演讲要穿着正式,那排练时就不要穿短裤。尽量把排练搞得逼真点。在正式发表演讲前,把排练做得越逼真,到真正那天你就会觉得更简单。
方法5.对着镜子练习演讲
对着镜子练习演讲是非常有用,也很重要的。你应该知道,在做演讲时,自己的一举一动都会影响观众的注意力。通过对着镜子练习,你会注意到自己是否在不断地前后摇摆,是否做一些不易察觉的但是无用的细微动作。观察,并且改正,因为往往是这些让人分心的小动作使得有水准的演说变成了糟糕的演说。
方法6.对着墙壁练习演讲
对着墙壁练习演讲,这与对着镜子演讲相比,是完全相反的方案。对着墙壁演讲可以使你将注意力都集中在演说的内容上。刚开始你可能会觉得傻(大家刚开始都这么觉得,但是对着墙壁演讲有助于弄清那些内容不妥的部分——那些没有说服力的或是难以得体地内容。通过这样的练习,反复推敲的用词和表达语气,获益匪浅。
方法7.不要只在家人面前练习
家人是你最好的评论者,但同样不幸的是,他们不会给你提供诚实的反馈。或许你家是例外,多少情况下,惟恐伤害你的感觉,或给你增加不必要的压力,就算有过,家人或许不会给你指出来。所以家人并不是合适的练习对象。如果你的家人坚持要你对着他们演讲,那么对他们的建议不要全信。虽然你不能因为家人想帮忙而责备他们,但他们的评论并不十分可靠。
The Father and His Son
Father had a family of sons who were perpetually quarrelling among themselves. When he failed to heal their disputes by his exhortations, he determined to give them a practical illustration of the evils of disunion; and for this purpose he one day told them to bring him a bundle of sticks. When they had done so, he placed the faggot into the hands of each of them in succession, and ordered them to break it in pieces. They each tried with all their strength, and were not able to do it.
我小时候经历的事,如天上的繁星!但是让我记忆犹新的那颗繁星是那一次。
在我8岁那年,明媚的春天,一天晚上,我突然发烧,妈妈让我吃药,我不肯吃,妈妈却说吃药才能好,可是我把妈妈的话当耳边风,就当什么也没看见也没听见。
过了一天,我高烧不退,去家附近的诊所检查了一下,大夫说我病的更严重了,所以不得不打了。其实,我更害怕打针,不想打,可是,再不打针的话,就得住院了。但我还是不想打针,跟妈妈哭闹着说回家。到家后,我勉强的接受了吃药。我把妈妈给我的药拿出一粒,小心翼翼的把它吃掉,啊,好苦啊。我大声的叫了一声,我再也不想吃药了,太苦了!
又过了一段时间,我病的更厉害了,也只好住院了。在医院只有打针的选择。看着护士来了,拿着针慢慢的推着药车来到我的身边,刚看到针,我就害怕了,浑身发抖……妈妈见我这样,没有办法,只能抱住我,哄着我,甚至按住我让护士姐姐把针给我扎上。还没过一会,我就感到了痛,我疼的直打滚,结果,刚扎进去的针,滚针了。医生走过来说,缓缓再打吧!
片刻之后,护士又来了,妈妈为了让我安静的打针,也是费尽了脑汁,她想到一个办法,把我抱住,一边喂我吃梨,一边给我讲笑话听,好不自在啊。就在此时,针已经不知不觉地扎进了我的血管里,没有了之前的那种疼。这样经过了几次,我觉得打针没有什么大不了的。
经历了这件事,我再也不怕打针了!
其实,有些事情在你没有经历时你会认为是大问题,但是,在你经过之后,你会发现,那些事都是小问题,只是看你有没有勇气去面对“它”,打败“它”,这样,“它”才会被你征服!
那一次的病让我成功的克服了对针的恐惧!
有人害怕鬼,有人害怕蛇,有人害怕老师……而我却害怕黑夜中的窗帘。
在我七岁那年,一天半夜突然尿急,可不敢下床,因为我刚刚看了一部电影——《行尸走肉》。我很害怕突然冒出来一具行尸,因此一直都没敢下床,直到我憋得快不行的时候,才硬着头皮下了床。唉,伸手不见五指啊!我只好开了灯。突然,外面的呼呼声引起了我的注意。只见风把窗帘吹得乱舞,活像一具刚苏醒过来的僵尸,正张牙舞爪地朝我冲过来,把我吓出了一身的鸡皮疙瘩,我的小心脏“扑通扑通”地跳,赶忙又躲回被窝。可体内一直有一股能量在横冲直撞……终于,我克服了重重困难,又鼓起勇气准备下床。谁知,刚下床,窗帘又在作怪。我赶紧跑进厕所,把体内的能量释放出来,顿时感觉舒服多了,也没有了之前的紧张感,然后大步走回床上。
不知不觉到了白天,睁开惺忪的双眼,正准备再睡一会儿,可一想到昨晚发生的事情,我又吓得魂飞魄散,立马没有了困意。我连忙走到窗帘旁找了起来,生怕从里边再跳出一具僵尸来。赶紧看了天气预报,当听到这一个星期都会有不时的大风,我想风会吹窗帘,窗帘会吓我,不行!我要想个办法!晚上,我事先把窗帘用绳子扎在一起,又把窗户关得严严实实,果然,今晚没有那么可怕了,反而异常安静,就连窗外汽车的喇叭声也听不到,那晚我睡得格外安稳。事实证明,所谓的一些鬼呀,神呀什么的,都是自己的无端想象而已。
这次经历让我想起笛福说过的一句话:害怕危险的心理比危险本身还要可怕一万倍。
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