非暴力沟通强调,感受的根源在于我们自身。说的太对了,你想要一个什么样的结果,你就要说出对应的话,有时候总是我们对别人的期待和对别人的看法过于太果断,所以导致我们有个错误的感受,以至于沟通无效或者别人直接不理解。
看了这本书,了解到了批评往往含期待,其实就是暗指自己的表达或想法没有得到满足,因为这样经常自己爱发脾气,也不去沟通,老是埋怨别人不理解自己,其实就是不会表达需要。有时候孩子让讲故事,一本接着一本,有时候真的太累了,嗓子都疼,我就埋怨孩子,一直讲没完没了了。其实我完全可以这样表达自己:“孩子我需要休息了,因为我的嗓子太疼了。”孩子也会理解,说:“这本书讲完就别讲了,妈妈。”
其实生活中真的没有那么多矛盾,缺的就是不会表达,一家人很难静下心来,友善的说出自己的需要,所以从我这里开始,首先改变自己,相信家庭会越来越好的。
《校园暴力》讲述的是一位叫祥翔男孩的故事。一天,妈妈叫祥祥出来吃饭,叫了半天,却没有看见他出来,走进房间,发现祥祥昏倒在地上。妈妈赶紧把他送到医院,医生说:“祥祥是因为暴饮暴食才昏倒的。”妈妈觉得很奇怪,在妈妈一直追问下,苏醒后的祥祥只好向家人说出了自己遭到敲诈的真相。原来祥祥受到高年级同学的敲诈,每天都要给他们钱,,而且一次比一次多。每次祥祥给他们钱后,回到家就猛吃东西,不敢告诉父母和老师,才造成今天的后果。
同学们,如果这件事发生在我们身上,你们会怎么做呢?有的同学说:“我可以抓住一切机会,撒腿就跑”。假如跑不掉呢,难道像祥祥那样,乖乖的把钱奉上吗?有的同学说:“我和他们拼了,就是不给他们钱。”这样一来,可能自己的生命安全就要受到威胁了。有的同学又说:“告诉爸爸,让爸爸狠狠地揍他们一顿!”……。那么到底哪一种方法才是最可取的`呢?我觉得最正确的做法是,当遭到第一次敲诈时,假装妥协,把钱给他们,记住他们的相貌,佩戴的校徽,然后告诉班主任或家长,甚至可以告诉警察叔叔,让他们保护自己!
我们一定要牢记祥祥的教训,要学会保护自己,只有这样我们才能健健康康地成长!
我在读这些书的时候一直在试着练习,因为我之前在感到悲伤、生气等情绪的时候,总是会强调我本来是怎么样的,因为你做了什么而导致我怎么样,我以前一直以为这样会得到理解或者怜悯,当然事实证明并没有,然后我接着在意的点就是:你根本不在乎我。
看了这本书我才知道,原来我根本就没有表达我的感受,我只是一直在表达我的看法,人对自己都是格外宽容的,所以错误总是别人比较多,所以我的看法其实也是一种指责,但是当你指责的时候,并不会如你想象的那样得到共情,反而是得到反驳、。
我看前三章的时候感觉还挺难写读后感的,因为我看完了还是不知道怎么做,而且我觉得像作者那样,对所有人都充满爱,实在是太难了,因为我是一点就着的性格。
但现在我大概知道怎么表达感受了,有个语句公式:你(事件表达),让我很(感受),因为我、、、。比如:你这一分钟内叫了我三次,我很烦,因为我想要专心煮饭。而不是:你怎么老是叫我啊,我在煮饭!
School is not only a place we can learn something,but also is a small society.
"School videncen"is a popular word in the school during this years.And school videncen have many influence for us too.Many of us suffer form bully of school-bullies nowadays.
So,boycott school videncen is what everyone in school should do.Teachers should have a sense of responsibility and carefully found the things which happened in your students and then timely educate and protect them.As we should have a sense of justive and also have a heart of fighting against with evil.Don't be feared,it just like a spring,you weak it will strong,you strong it will weak.
I think if we unite together to fight against with evil.The school will peace and harmonious again!
校园,我们学习的的乐园、成长的摇篮。我们渴望在和谐安全的校园环境中愉快地学习,健康的成长。
然而,校园里也时常有不和谐的音符。也许因为一个误会,有人恶语相加;也许因为一次无意犯错,有人挥起了拳头……
今天,我观看了一部非常有教育意义的影片——《校园暴力》,它告诉我们在现实生活中该如何保护好自己,免受他人的侵害。
《校园暴力》讲述的是一位叫翔翔男孩的故事。一天,妈妈叫翔翔出来吃饭,叫了半天,却没有看见他出来,走进房间,发现翔翔在地上呕吐不止。妈妈赶紧把他送到医院,医生说:“翔翔是因为暴饮暴食才导致现在这样。”妈妈觉得很奇怪,在妈妈一直追问下,苏醒后的祥祥只好向家人说出了自己遭到敲诈的真相。
原来祥祥受到高年级同学的敲诈,每天都要给他们钱,而且一次比一次多。每次翔翔给他们钱后,回到家就猛吃东西,不敢告诉父母和老师,才造成今天的后果。
同学们,如果这件事发生在我们身上,你会怎么做呢?有的同学说:“我可以抓住一切机会,撒腿就跑”。假如跑不掉呢,难道像翔翔那样,乖乖的把钱奉上吗?有的同学说:“我和他们拼了,就是不给他们钱。”这样一来,可能自己的生命安全就要受到威胁了。有的同学又说:“告诉爸爸,让爸爸狠狠地揍他们一顿!”
为了防止校园暴力的发生,我总结了几条安全小贴士:
1、身上不要多带钱和贵重物品,如手机,mp3等。
2、遇事要沉着冷静,根据现场情况,做出反应和判断。
3、可以给对方一些财物,并寻找时机,记住对方的相貌特征,衣着打扮,并及时告诉班主任或家长,也可以告诉警察叔叔,让他们保护自己!
4、学校附近行人稀少的小巷是校园暴力事件的高发区。上学和放学期间不要单独在这样的小巷里行走,尽量结伴同行。
当我们遭遇校园暴力时,千万不能忍气吞声、逆来顺受,应及时告知老师、父母或其他监护人,有必要时还要寻求法律的保护。同时,也不能不计后果、以牙还牙,恶意报复只会导致雪上加霜。
让我们一起努力,驱散笼罩在校园上空的黑暗!
It is shocking to notice that extreme violence has occurred with frequency on campus in recent years, home and abroad.
In November this year, a college student from a prestigious university stabbed to death a professor who was preparing for his teaching. In the US a deadly shooting by a Korean American college student resulted in 33 classmates’ death. These tragedies seem to be unimaginable when college students are regarded as the elite of the society. Some people claim that the higher education do not improve moralities of those college students. Others believe that college students are fragile in their internal minds. These opinions do make sense when we take the overloaded pressure imposed on college students into consideration. While there is no way to rid totally the world of such violence, it is more important to take measures to avoid those occurrences.
Among those solutions, psychological aid is one. If psychological consulting had been resorted to, those tragedies should have happened with less possibility.
直接告诉他你的请求,你希望他做什么,尽量的表述具体详细些,而不是直接说不希望他做什么。
使用抽象的语言会使我们无法深入的了解自己。
Many of us suffer form bully of school-bullies nowadays,you weak it will strong.School is not only a place we can learn something.And school videncen have many influence for us too.Teachers should have a sense of responsibility and carefully found the things which happened in your students and then timely educate and protect them;School videncen",it just like a spring.
I think if we unite together to fight against with evil;is a popular word in the school during this years,you strong it will weak.As we should have a sense of justive and also have a heart of fighting against with evil.
So;t be feared,boycott school videncen is what everyone in school should do.The school will peace and harmonious again,but also is a small society.
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