一是,多看、多想、多练、多写、少说。这样对问题把握得更客观,说话更具影响力;二是,说话做事有条理、带逻辑。这需要平时就要对问题分类整合,不是随口而答,更不是信口开河。当然,讲笑话除外,讲笑话是调节剂,不是生活的主食,更不是工作的主色彩;三是,养成做笔记的习惯。我的经验是,它可以大大提高写作水平,可以积累素材,可以寄托自己的情感,可以记录自己的人生轨迹。长此坚持,不出五年,大受脾益。可能刚开始时,语言少而乏味,逻辑混乱且分析肤浅,内心被动且不情愿,久了,情况就会向相反的方向转变。作为一个人,总有拿得出手、看得到的结果吧,笔记就是你的劳动果实。四是,可以将一天必做的事情记在笔记本上,做完一件勾掉一件,没法做完的\'留到下一天。当预计的事情做完了,就可痛痛快快做一些自己喜欢做的事情,不要老是被很多繁杂的事情所困扰。这对自己的时空自由和情绪调剂大有好处。五是,想方设法为自己的观点找到三个以上的理由。这是督促自己积极思考的好办法,这样坚持下去,就会练就很快找到论证理由的能力,那时,理由就不止四条五条了。六是,有意识缩写一些文章,这可训练自己的分析概括能力,不至于言而无物。
这不仅仅是找工作的需要,更是立身成事之本。
要想学习好,紧扣几个环节:一是,根据老师的引导,找到学习内容的侧重点,找到学习能力的侧重点,而非“眉毛胡子一把抓”。比如,可以听听学长的学习,老师的学习要求,看看往年的题(学校的、招考的)等等;二是,要有有效的学习、思维形式。比如,坚持做笔记,针对某些敏感话题进行论述(刚开始比较幼稚,随着岁月的增长、社会的积累、分析能力的提高,水平会大幅度提高,前提条件是,要认真对待这件事不是应付敷衍)等;三是,要与学习好的同学多接触,不是一味学习别人的学习方法,而是有一个稳定的学习氛围,影响、督促自己不断学习。有一个好的圈子很重要。
学习是一件枯燥的事情,也是提高自己的捷径。努力丢掉那些患得患失的想法,我的经验,没有多少好事不期而遇,多是努力也不一定有回报,但,不努力一定没回报。
I read the Chinese version of “Camille” a few years ago. At that time I was deeply moved by the main character Marguerite Gautier. “Camille” or “The Lady of the Camellias” by Alexandre Dumas, fils, is the story of Marguerite Gautier, a young courtesan, or kept woman, in Paris in the mid 1800's, and how she falls in love with a young man, Armand Duval, and then tries to escape from her questionable past. Unfortunately, it comes back to haunt her and she ends up returning to that life and dies painfully and alone, but with the knowledge that she was a noble woman at heart. When I first began to read the book, I did not care for Marguerite or her attitude or lifestyle, but as I got further into the narrative, I realized that her saucy attitude was a front to cover the lonely woman that she really was. She felt used, abused and unloved, until the gentle Armand Duval came into her life and showed her that he loved her as a person and not for what she could do for him. It must have taken great courage for Marguerite to leave the life she had lived for so long, knowing all along that it was probably too good to be true and would not last indefinitely. And it also showed that Marguerite really loved Armand Duval for she could even change herself for him.
However, happiness didn’t last for long. When M. Duval, Armand's father, came to her, pleading for her to leave Armand to save both Armand's reputation and that of his younger innocent sister, Marguerite saw a way to become pure of heart, if not in body. She felt that it was her duty, because she loved Armand so much, to do this even though it meant giving up her own happiness and hurting Armand temporarily. She reluctantly returned to her former life, knowing that.some day Armand would forgive her. Sadly, she died in debt and basically alone, except for her one female friend, Julie Duprat, who helped her during her illness. She had her journal sent to Armand after her death, explaining why she had made the choices she had. I think Dumas's last few lines about Marguerite being the exception, not the rule were quite true, and I also agreed with his view that while her lifestyle could not be condoned, we as a society assume that all of these type of women are cold and heartless, while this may not always be the case. A person can make the wrong choices in life when they are young, and try to redeem themselves, but sometimes past situations prevent them from changing their lives, even though they desperately wish to do so. This applies to both men and women in many different types of circumstances: involvement in crime; drug or alcohol abuse; gambling; prostitution; financial problems; poor marriage choices; etc. And this is the fact, which exists in the whole society.
As far as the other characters in the book, I think Marguerite was right in saying that no one truly cared about her, but only wanted something from her, the only exceptions being Armand and Julie Duprat. Of course, the Comte de G. and Comte de N. wanted her body and appearance. The
Duke needed to “wake up and smell the coffee” and realize that she could never replace his dead daughter. If he truly cared, he could have helped her leave her lifestyle without “keeping” her himself. And lastly, Prudence was a blood-sucking leech who used Marguerite almost worse than the men. I also think she was jealous of the fact that Marguerite had so much more courage than herself and someone truly loved her.
Last morning, when tiding my bookshelf, I took this book out of the shelf, and a dried flower flew away from the book. It was pale blue, very transparent, with thin fine veins. a dried flower flew away from the book. It was pale blue, very transparent, with thin fine veins. I held it against the morning light and blew on it. The soft breeze carried it away. Camille is just like the camellia, she could never escape from the destiny of withering. But it wasn’t her fault; it’s because of the evil of Capitalism and the hideousness of that society.
Suddenly, I remembered a saying: “Women are like the flowers”. Those pretty women are like those beautiful flowers; their delicate beauty makes people feel they are the miracle of life. However, even the God envies their beauty. It seems that beautiful women always have tragic endings. As we are normal persons, even we can see the hideousness of humanity that results in their fate of withering, we can at most ask quietly in our hearts: Where have those beautiful flowers gone? Where have they gone?
The Life And Adventures Of Robinson Crusoe
It seemed to be such a coincidence that the night after I finished reading The Life And Adventures Of Robinson Crusoe, I was to dine in a restaurant distinctly related to the book itself. This restaurant was no other than the famous American-styled “Friday ’s. ” The reason for mentioning this restaurant is quite straightforward to all the gentlemen, ladies and children who have read the novel and enjoyed it, which is the fact that this restaurant was, most likely, named after the American Native in Robinson Crusoe, called Friday. This restaurant offers very exceptional service, for instance when the waitresses are asked to order dishes they kneel rather than stand, which, unlike the other restaurants I have been to, makes it easier for the customers to hear them speak. Moreover, Friday’s friendly services to the customers help them to make better choices when ordering dishes. I remembered when I went to Friday ’s last time; the waitress kindly described the items on the menu with precise details. It turned out that the combo I initially wanted was designed to be shared among a large group, not to be eaten by one person. I think this restaurant shows many commendable features similar to that of Friday. Friday brought emotional warmth to the people around him with his appealing personality. I think it was this personality that affected Crusoe and made him say that he loved Friday when Crusoe didn ’t express love for his parents, brothers, sisters, or even his wife. “When he espied me, he came running to me, laying himself down again upon the ground, with all the possible signs of an humble, thankful disposition, making many antic gestures to show it to let me know how he would serve me as long as he lived.” This was what Friday did after Crusoe had rescued him from the two savages chasing him. It was easy for me to see why Crusoe had loved Friday. After sometime, Crusoe and Friday were to rescue Friday’s father. When Friday reunited with his father, the scene was easy to move anyone: “It would have moved anyone to tears to have seen how Friday kissed him, embraced him, hugged him, cried, laughed, halloed, jumped about, danced,
sung; and then sung and jumped about again, like a distracted creature. It was a good while before I could make him speak to me.” This is my favourite chapter in the whole book. It is hard to see why Friday is an ex-savage when he can have personalities more praiseworthy than many civilized people, viz. Crusoe himself. “When he (Friday went to him (Friday’s father, he would sit down by him, open his breast, and hold his father’s head close to his bosom, half an hour together, to nourish it; then he took his arms and ankles, which were numbed and stiff with the binding, and rubbed them with his hands.” Furthermore, Friday’s expression of loyalty in asking Crusoe to kill him rather than leave him is more heartfelt than anything Crusoe ever says or does.
Crusoe, on the absolute contrary, seems incapable of deep feelings, as shown by his account of leaving his family—he never shows any emotions. After a moving lecture from Robinson’s father about his future, he still decided to follow his own wandering ambition. Careless was he about the wishes of his parents to keep him alive and prosperous, as he was the only child left in the family. When he came back from the island which he had lived on for twenty eight years, he found that it had been too late to tell his parents that he was still alive, but yet again he did not feel sorry for them; he also did not feel sorry for the two people who had to live in misery for nearly thirty years under the allusion all of their sons were dead. He had the same feelings for his wife: when he was married, he said it was “not either to my disadvantage or dissatisfaction”, implying that it was also neither to his advantage nor his satisfaction. Moreover, after his wife died, Robinson did not think of looking after the three children they had, but went back to the island, which he had lived on for twenty-eight years. It was on this trip which Robinson Crusoe revisited “His Island ” as he called it. I feel that Robinson ’s indifference to his family is almost emotionally cruel.
Before had clearly shown the contrast between Crusoe’s and Friday’s personalities, as when Friday, in his joyful reunion with his father, displayed far more emotion toward his family members than Crusoe, whereas Crusoe never mentions missing his family or dreams about the happiness of seeing them again. I think Defore is very successful in introducing Friday as part of the novel, it makes the whole novel seem much more complete and gripping to the reader, as well as proving that Defoe’s ideology of racism is civilized unlike many other Europeans at that time; natives and savages are not worse than others but can perhaps even be more modern and civilized. Those are the reasons of why I like The Life And Adventures Of Robinson Crusoe and Friday.
儿子,你是妈妈的宝贝,与我而言,世上最动听的话语,就是你抱着我的脖子,贴在耳边轻声说“妈妈,我爱你!”;世上最贴心的照顾,就是在我感冒时,你轻抚我的额头,询问我是不是要喝开水,帮我掖好被角,并告诉我“妈妈,好好睡吧,我乖,我不吵你”
儿子,妈妈给你的爱有多少,你带给妈妈的快乐和感动就有多少……
儿子,19岁,你已经是一个大男孩,一个顶天立地的男子汉了。妈妈希望你成为一个有爱心的人,时刻怀有一颗仁爱之心,因为只有先付出,然后才能得到爱的回报,那是你人生幸福的秘诀。
儿子,妈妈希望你学会感恩,尽管我和你爸爸为你所做的一切,都是我们从内心里说是很愿意的;尽管每次你弟弟不管吃什么,都会为你留一些,哪怕是一个苹果也要为你留半个,但我们还是希望你不要以为你所得到的理所应当!不论是普照你的阳光还是喂饱你的粮食,不论是家人无微不至的照顾还是老师、同学和朋友关键时候的鼓励,甚至是成长路上的\'挫折与失败,你都要怀着感恩的心接受,因为是它们让你不断健康成长。
大学,是个人实现人生价值的崭新平台,体现为个人心智提升、能力和素质养成的过程。儿子,妈妈知道你只是一个普通的孩子,既不是数学神童,也不会出口成章。勤能补拙。在这个充满竞争的时代,只希望你珍惜青春时光,注重知识积累和优化知识结构,努力学习,不断提升个人能力,只希望你每天都有一点小小的进步,积水成渊,聚沙成塔,集腋成裘,只要不断努力,总有一天你的付出会有所回报。
儿子,此时此刻,你正在大学课堂里聆听着老师的授课,或是正在汗牛充栋的阅览室里就读......这一刻,我们默默地注视着你,也在默默地祝福着你。我想对你说的是:珍惜当下,珍惜今天所拥有的一切,勇敢地去迎接人生的洗礼,也获得属于你自己的精彩与荣耀,我期待并祝福你走向成功!
儿子,过程永远比结果重要。大学生涯于你于你未来的人生都是至关重要而十分精彩的。你已经历过中学六年生活的磨练,没有中学六年的奋斗,你的中学生活毕竟会暗淡,让你永远不会产生怀念。同样,四年的大学生活是美好的,学会把握,它必将给你的人生留下浓墨重彩的一笔。19岁,正值青春年少,富有激情,抓住它就能够创造精彩人生。儿子,我知道你已经长大成人,即将离开妈妈、爸爸,还将会一个人去跋涉远行。不管你干什么,妈妈都相信你会做出正确的选择;无论你身处何方,妈妈和爸爸都会为你默默祝福、殷殷祷告:祝福你一切安好、人生幸福!
儿子,最重要的,是你在这条时而坎坷时而平坦的人生路上,记得学会好好保护自己,如果哪一天你遭遇了挫折失败,总有两个人会一直在默默地理解、支持和给你鼓励,那就是你的妈妈和爸爸,爸爸妈妈永远爱你;在人生的道路上,如果有一天你不幸跌倒受伤了,总有一个地方会收留你——那就是家,家是你永远的避风港湾,在妈妈和爸爸温暖的怀抱中,你可以放下一切,安心疗伤。
Many people simply regard Pride and Prejudice as a love story, but in my opinion, this book is an illustration of the society at that time. She perfectly reflected the relation between money and marriage at her time and gave the people in her works vivid characters. The characters have their own personalities. Mrs. Bennet is a woman who makes great efforts to marry off her daughters. Mr. Bingley is a friendly young man, but his friend, Mr. Darcy, is a very proud man who seems to always feel superior. Even the five daughters in Bennet family are very different. Jane is simple, innocent and never speaks evil of others. Elizabeth is a clever girl who always has her own opinion. Mary likes reading classic books. (Actually she is a pedant. Kitty doesn’t have her own opinion but likes to follow her sister, Lydia. Lydia is a girl who follows exotic things, handsome man, and is somehow a little profligate. When I read the book, I can always find the same personalities in the society now. That is why I think this book is indeed the representative of the society in Britain in the 18th century.
The family of gentleman in the countryside is Jane Austen’s favourite topic. But this little topic can reflect big problems. It concludes the stratum situation and economic relationships in Britain in her century. You can find these from the very beginning of this book.
The first sentence in this book is impressive. It reads: “It is a truth well known to all the world that an unmarried man in poss ession of a large fortune must be in need of a wife”. The undertone is very clear: the foundation of the marriage at that time is not emotion but possession.
People always think that Austen was an expert at telling love stories. In fact, the marriage in her book is not the result of love, but the result of economic needs. After reading this book, I know the truth is that a poor woman must be in need of a husband, a wealthy man.
I couldn’t forget how eager Mrs. Bennet wants to marry off her daughte rs. If you want to know why she is so crazy about these things, I must mention the situation in Britain at that time. Only the eldest son had the privilege of inheriting his father’s possessions. Younger sons and daughters who are used to luxurious lives have no choice but marry a man or woman in possession of a large fortune to continue their comfortable lives. Thus, we can see that getting married is a way to become wealthier, particularly for women without many possessions. Jane Austen told us that money and possession determined everything, including marriage and love in her century.
In “Pride and Prejudice”, the sister of Mr. Bingley strongly opposed his plan of marrying Jane because the Bennets don’t have many possessions and their social positions are much lower than them. From this, we can see there are a lot of obstacles for a not very rich woman to marry a wealthy husband. The society, the relatives would not allow them to get married.
In modern society, although the marriages of economic needs have decreased rapidly, the concept of “money determines everything” is still rooted in some people’s mind. A lot of parents try hard to interfere their children’s marriages. Education background, possessions, jobs remains the main reason that may influence one’s marriage. Marry for money is still a big problem in our
society. We can’t help thinking: can money determine everything?
Austen left this problem for us to think. The genius of Jane Austen lies in this perfect simplicity, the simplicity that reflects big problems. Although Austen was only 21 when she wrote “Pride and Prejudice”, her sharp observation of social lives makes the style of this book surprisingly mature and lively. The plots in her works are always very natural. The development of the plot is as inevitable as a problem in mathematics. I think the depth of Pride and Prejudice is the reason that makes this book prominent and classic. Today, her book still can be the guide telling us the economic relationships both at her time and in modern time.
杜克海,曾是学校社会活动的积极分子,拥有各种荣誉与头衔,更是老师与同学眼中的优等生。大学生活过半时,杜克海厌倦了种种被动式、学与考、机械式的生活方式,想要试图寻找一种自由轻松的大学生活,想为自己读点书,好好地为自己生活。大三的他,放下了诸如委员、主席、会长等头衔与各种学生工作,做回一名普普通通简简单单的学生。但当他放肆的享受着大学生活时,身边的绝大部分同学却正紧张的投入到各类考证与考研大军中。
杜克海,在面对自己未来时,迷茫了!
我不是上了大学,而是被大学上了!许多人在大学毕业后这样总结自己的大学经历,他们中的大部分人由高中时期的机器转变成了大学时代的就业机器。在大学里,许多学生的学习目标变成拿奖学金与考证,在许多人眼里这些是日后找工作的敲门砖与重要筹码。而当你问他们,在大学里,你学到了什么?或许他们还需要点时间去回想一下,最终你将得到的\'答案也许是,不知道!
但在上海,中国首个大学生原创设计品牌RafflesPrivato,以其年轻、活力、创意的风格吸引着时尚界的注意。香港两大巨星叻哥陈百祥与女强人邝美云还在今年3月,特意来到位于上海新天地时尚的店铺置办节目录制行头。RafflesPrivato由莱佛士教育集团最初在新加坡创立,旨在扶持莱佛士学生的原创创新设计,帮助学生作品直接面对市场接受检验,在打造成市场认可的品牌事业的过程中,孵化培育出更多拥有原创创新才华、市场认可度以及潮流触觉与敏感度的亚洲青年设计师新锐。2011年,在东华大学-莱佛士国际设计专修学院的全力支持下,上海的RafflesPrivato在时尚地标新天地开幕,每一位设计师与管理人员都是莱佛士的学生,他们并没有在大学里为了所谓的求职敲门砖而忙忙碌碌,却是结合学院所学的专业知识与在学校的各类活动与实践中得到许多丰富的实战,真正的为自己事业的未来在努力奋斗着。他们其中的部分学生,更是在RafflesPrivato的工作实践与市场检验中,得到了独到的工作与市场剖析的经验,成功创办自己的工作室以及达到国际水平的时装秀。
首批入驻RafflesPrivato的东华莱佛士时装设计系的优秀毕业生
其实,很多学生都有自己的理想,也知道自己要的是什么,而迷茫的根本原因是在于他们不知道自己怎么把理想与现实衔接起来,最终就选了条不会出错的随大流。理想与现实之间并不像牛郎与织女间有着一条不可逾越的银河。
大学理应教授学生如何锻炼思维方式,有效地学习专业知识,从知识、活动、实践中开阔眼界,并辅助学生确定符合自己并切身实际的理想,引导学生正确选择适合自己的优势职业。而我国的大学教育对于学生的职业规划还处于刚刚起步时期,大学生的职业规划意识还处于萌芽期。
世间不缺乏有理想的人,缺乏的只是能将理想实现的人!这句话正是对目前那些处于迷茫中的学生的正解。许多学生就像杜克海形容的,一直都是跟着大部队前行,从来没有想过要走到哪儿,只知道跟着走没错。但当走累了,想独自听下来休息一会儿的时候,却发现大部队走远了,而自己却徘徊在十字路口,不知道该往哪儿走。如果学校在这个时候能实际地辅助、引导他们消除迷茫与焦虑所在,而不是一味的让学生自己在迷茫焦虑的世界里自寻答案,这样就不会有那么多学生像杜克海那样反复不停地问自己出路在哪里,因为他们明白,出路就在自己的坚持、勇气与梦想里。
干什么就有干什么的素质,否则就是混日子,这样,既是对工作不负责,也是对自己也不负责。训练时感到苦时,希望你能想到这点,别人用人是选择最优秀的,那些平平之辈,就是少吃的那点苦也是多吃的,人家不用你,此时,你的痛苦不仅仅是来自肉体,更是来自心灵深处。记住啊,现在找到一份理想的工作很难。
以上是我的一些想法,不一定说到你心里,我能保证的是,这是我的经验之谈。陈述这些,供你参考,有的,需要你在生活中慢慢体会。
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