Country Garden and Me
On the way from Panyu City to Shunde City and approaching the conjunction point of both cities, a big advertisement board of the infamous Country Garden will catch your eyes. And on the board, a lovely girl gently holds a little white pigeon.
She looks at everybody with a sweet smile. Who is this girl? Let me tell you later. Country Garden is located at the Beijao town, Shunde City of Guangdong Province. Ten years ago when my Dad and Mom took me as a baby to Guangzhou, it was a wasteland here. But what does this piece of wasteland look like nowadays? Country Garden has been developed and enlarged rapidly on the ground of this land, and a great number of high-quality houses and apartments have been built up within the garden. Over the past decade, other nine country gardens with various unique designs have been erasing around the great city of Guangzhou. The construction and management of several gardens have engaged the devoted contributions from my Dad and Mom.
Country Garden has grown up together with me, and I am one of the witnesses of its growth and development.
The fox, filled with arrogance, examined the cat from head to feet, and for a long time did not know whether he should give an answer. At last he said, "Oh, you poor beard-licker, you speckled fool, you hungry mouse hunter, what are you thinking? Have you the nerve to ask how I am doing? What do you know? How many tricks do you understand?"
"I understand but one," answered the cat, modestly.
"What kind of a trick is it?" asked the fox.
"When the dogs are chasing me, I can jump into a tree and save myself."
"Is that all?" said the fox. "I am master of a hundred tricks, and in addition to that I have a sackful of cunning. I feel sorry for you. Come with me, and I will teach you how one escapes from the dogs."
Just then a hunter came by with four dogs. The cat jumped nimbly up a tree, and sat down at its top, where the branches and foliage completely hid her.
"Untie your sack, Mr. Fox, untie your sack," the cat shouted to him, but the dogs had already seized him, and were holding him fast.
"Oh, Mr. Fox," shouted the cat. "You and your hundred tricks are left in the lurch. If you been able to climb like I can, you would not have lost your life."
一只猫在森林里遇到一只狐狸,心想:“他又聪明,又丰富,挺受人尊重的。”於是它很友好地和狐狸打招呼:“日安,尊敬的狐狸先生,您好吗?这些日子挺艰难的,您过得怎么样?”
狐狸傲慢地将猫从头到脚地打量了一番,半天拿不定主意是不是该和它说话。最后它说:“哦,你这个倒霉的长着鬍子、满身花纹的傻瓜、饥肠辘辘地追赶老鼠的.傢伙,你会啥?有甚么资格问我过得怎么样?你都学了点甚么本事?”
“我只有一种本领。”猫谦虚地说。
“甚么本领?”狐狸问。
“有人追我的时候,我会爬到树上去藏起来保护自己。”
“就这本事?”狐狸不屑地说,“我掌握了上百种本领,而且还有满口袋计谋。我真觉得你可怜,跟着我吧,我教你怎么从追捕中逃生。”
就在这时,猎人带着四条狗走近了。猫敏捷地窜到一棵树上,在树顶上蹲伏下来,茂密的树叶把它遮挡得严严实实。
“快打开你的计谋口袋,狐狸先生,快打开呀!”猫冲着狐狸喊道。可是猎狗已经将狐狸扑倒咬住了。“哎呀,狐狸先生,”猫喊道,“你的千百种本领就这么给扔掉了!假如你能像我一样爬树就不至於丢了性命了!”
逆商,就是你面对逆境、承受逆境所带来的压迫感时的能力。越来越多的组织与企业都开始重视对于“逆商”的评估。读《逆商》这本书,能够为企业培训提供思考和帮助。
逆商是什么呢?它可以是一个测量工具,也可以是一种生活方式,又是一套改善方法,是我们人生中非常重要的一件事。
面对逆境有三种人:第一种叫放弃者,喜欢逃避和安逸;第二种叫扎营者,获得地位后停滞不前;第三种叫攀登者,他生活不仅仅是为了得到一个社会地位。我们可以将自己与这三种人对照,看自己到底是一个放弃者、扎营者、还是一个攀登者,这就有了一个疗愈的过程。梭罗说过:“最害怕死亡的人是那些知道自己从未真正活过的人。”尼采也说:“如果一个人知道自己为什么而活,他就可以忍受生活加诸他的一切苦难。”这就是一个攀登者会有的内心变化。书里还提到了“逆境困局”,意思就是在任何情况之下攀登者的数量和逆境的困难程度成反比,逆境越厉害,攀登者的人数就越少。
一个人在社会至少要面对三层逆境,第一层逆境来自社会,比如社会文化,这是基层逆境。第二层逆境是职场逆境,第三层逆境是个人逆境,这是最核心、最隐隐约约、最深层的逆境。那么在面临逆境的时候,我们通常要小心几条岔路,一是攀登者变成扎营者,我们要不断地提醒自己,不要变成扎营者。二是科技万能,当我们遇到问题,首先想到的不是解决问题,而是把责任推到科技身上。三是打鸡血,这种方式在心理学上又叫“后群体兴奋”,经过这种打鸡血的方式后就会很兴奋,觉得人生充满了斗志。
逆商的原理建立在三大理论支柱之上。一是认知心理学,就是首先要改变自己的认知和心理状况。书里着重讲到了“习得性无助”,就是生活不断打击你,使你觉得无法支撑。如果我们在生活中产生了“习得性无助”,就会非常缺乏掌控感。归因理论有正面的积极的归因,还有反面的'消极的归因。二是健康新论,就是身心关系。当你用软弱来应对逆境的时候,会导致抑郁甚至会产生癌症。三是脑科学习惯的养成,习惯养成不一定需要21天,我们要想改变一个习惯,重新塑造一个习惯,就要开辟一个新的神精通路,这样新的习惯就养成了。
逆商有四个维度,一是掌控感,即你是不是觉得这件事你能掌控;二是担当力,即遇到事情能做些什么;三是影响度,就是逆境对我们的影响;四是持续性,就是这个逆境能持续多长时间,逆境的起因会持续多久。
逆商高的人遇到事情会考虑各种可能性,他们的潜意识反应是这个事情肯定有办法解决,我一定要努力找出来。一个人的效能与逆商是相关的,逆商一旦被提高,效能也会提升。
很多人都有自己的目标,目标可以不同,但是绝对不能没有目标。更重要的是有了目标后,我们一定要为此付诸行动,全力以赴。这些没有必要拿张纸唰唰大笔抹几下,但是在你的头脑中一定得有个奋斗目标,有个全套打算,没有目标就是没有终点,一个连自己终点都不知在哪里的人,将如何完成这段旅程,当然这一路不会是一帆风顺,它总会有让你黯然流泪的时候,不过阴天之后总会是晴天的。
那么,我们需要一步一个脚印,踏踏实实地做学问 ,书山有路勤为径,学海无涯苦作舟。让我们共同探索未知世界,向着自己的目标,奋力前进!
首先,上课的时候,我要认真听讲,不做小动作,不和同学交头接耳,要力争把老师课堂上讲的.知识全部消化;对于疑难问题,要不耻下问,虚心向老师和同学请教。
还要,要认真完成老师布置的所有作业,做到一丝不苟。课堂作业当堂完成;课后作业和家庭作业也要按时独立完成。
总而言之,在新的学期里我要更加努力,争取每门功课都取得好成绩,当一个各方面都很出色的学生。我们将以新的精神面貌跨进新的学期。
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