When you look back on yourself in the past – 10, 20, 30 or more years ago – it’s surprising to see how much you have changed over time. Your experiences, your friends, your family and your work have all shaped who you are right now. But where will you be in another few years? How will you have changed? Reflective writing in your journal is an excellent way to think about what you want out of the future.当你10年、20年或更多年后回顾过去时,你会吃惊地发现,随着时光的流逝,你也发生了很大的变化。你的经历、朋友、家庭和工作造就了现在的你。但是再过几年你会在哪里呢?你会如何变化呢?这样反思性的写作,会是思考未来你想要什么的一种好的方式。
You may have already written a letter to your younger self before, conveying all the wisdom and perspective you wish you had had at the time. Now consider the opposite end of the spectrum; what would you say if you wrote your future self a letter?你也许以前试过给过去的自己写信,向年轻时的自己传授一些人生的智慧和观点,你希望那时候的自己就能知道这些。现在我们换个角度看问题,如果让你给未来的自己写封信,你会写点什么?
Just imagine writing a letter to your future self 5 years from now, then opening it at that exact moment 5 years down the road to see how much of it resonated with you. It is a useful supplementary tool to be used in goal achievement, because when you write the letter to your future self, it helps crystallize exactly how you anticipate yourself to become at that specific moment down the road.
想象一下,给5年后的自己写一封信,当5年后你打开那封信时,你会产生多少共鸣。这是实现目标的一种有用的辅助工具,因为当你给未来的自己写信时,你会慢慢理清希望自己在人生旅途的那个特定时刻变成什么样子。
As you read the letter in the future, you can assess how many things match up (or not vs. your expectations in the past and think about why that’s the case. Often times, the goals we set and our goal achievement process are subjected to a lot of changes along the way, due to varying obstacles, unanticipated circumstances and changing priorities. The letter gives you a macro-view of your initial vision and lets you recognize how your current vision differs from the past.当你在未来读这封信时,你可以看看有多少事情是像你过去期望的那样,你也会思考为什么会这样。很多时候,我们设定目标在实现的过程中会受到沿途中各种因素的影响,因为会遇到各种各样的困难、各种意外情况并需要不断调整优先级。这封信能让你从宏观的角度上去看自己最初的愿景,让你意识到自己现在的想法和过去相比有多么不同。
When you open the letter in the future, you as your future self gets to compare how you used to be in the past and compare with how you are currently. This lets you see in totality how much things have changed since then – and this can be a really intriguing experience. It’s interesting to just see how much you have grown/changed since you wrote the letter.当你以后看信时,你会把过去的自己和现在的.自己进行比较。这会让你看清从写信时起你发生了哪些变化,这种体验是非常有趣的。光看看从你写信开始发生了哪些变化就很有趣了。
What To Write About写什么内容好呢?
Look at today’s date. Now imagine you writing to yourself, exactly X years from now. What do you want to say to your future self?看看今天的日期。现在想象一下你在给X年后的自己写信。你想对未来的自己说些什么呢?
How do you want your future self to be like 1 year in the future?你想让自己1年后变成什么样子呢?
What are the different dreams and goals you would want to be realized by then?到那时你想实现的梦想和目标会有哪些不同呢?
What is your desired status of the areas of your life wheel at that time?那时你想要的人生轨迹和状态会是什么样的呢?
Career/Business/Studies? Finances? Family? Friends? Love? Health? Spirituality? Recreation? Personal growth? Contribution?职业/生意/学习?财政?家庭?朋友?爱情?健康?心灵?娱乐?个人成长?成就?
Once you’re done, sign off your name with today’s date. Safe keep your letter. Put the papers in an envelope. Seal it.写完后,别忘了在名字下面写上今天的日期。妥善保管你的信件,把信纸放在信封里,封上信封。
Set in your calendar to open your letter 1 year from now. Put this envelope in a safe place where no one can access to it.在日历上注明,1年后的今天你要打开这封信。把这封信放在安全的地方,确保别人看不到。
Live your life like you’ve never lived it before in the next 1 year. Open the letter 1 year later and relish in nostalgia, love and joy as you read the letter from yourself 1 year ago.在接下来的1年里,好好生活,用崭新的方式过生活。一年后打开信封,在怀旧却又爱意满满的欢乐气氛中享受读信的乐趣。
Write Your Letter To Your Future Self给未来的自己写封信
Take out a pen and paper right now and start writing your letter to your future self. Identify a time period to write to, imagine how you will be like during that time period, then start writing. Think about the type of person you will be, your place in life, what you would have accomplished then, the kind of thoughts and feelings you will experience, and so on.现在就拿出笔和纸,开始给未来的自己写封信吧。找个合适的时间,想象你在那段时间内会是什么样子,然后开始写信。想一想你想成为哪种人,你在生活中的位置、那时你的成就、你会有什么样的想法和感觉,诸如此类的内容。
At the end of the letter, seal it in an envelope, write the date to open it on the cover and put it in a safe storage space. Fix the date to open this letter in your personal calendar. When you open this sometime in the near future, you might gain additional insights about yourself and your journey in the past few years that you were oblivious to.写完信,把它装到信封里,在信封的封面上写上日期,把它妥善保管起来。在自己的日历中标记一下打开这封信的日期。当你以后打开信时,你可能会更好的洞察自己以及自己过去的生命历程。
“家”——简简单单的几画,普普通通的一个汉字,却诠释了它的温暖与真情……
每个人都有着一个属于自己的家,它给予沃恩温暖与真情,它是我们人生中的第一港湾,在这个港湾中房屋是我们的轮船,亲人是轮船上的工作人员,而我们是乘客,在这轮船上,我们无时无刻不在受着亲人们的关怀,父母教育我们如何做人,如何做事,在我们小时候,父母驾驶这这艘轮船,驶向那春暖花开的世外桃源,而我们在中途却让“船长”们为难,航向的不一致,目的的不统一……
这一切的问题困扰着船长们,他们给了我们正确的航向告诉我们正确的目标,告诉我们在某条航向中会触礁。
在到达目的地后,船已经在时间的海洋中漂泊了数十年,船身上的一道道疤痕抹不去,我们的免费旅行在船上已经完成,下面的路需要我们自己去走,在这目的地打造一片自己的天地,一开始虽然不会很美丽,但在建造过程中,我们会吸取经验,自己规划这人生的未来,父母给予我们建议,这小岛属于我们……
我相信,在几年后,这小刀会因为我的存在而富饶,成为一个“世外桃源”规划自己理想的蓝图,为港湾增添一份温暖。
“家”——简简单单的几画,普普通通的一个汉字,却诠释了父母给予我们的关怀和他们的心血,这就是一个以温暖为主题的港湾,一个温暖的家。
“我愿和更多的人分享心灵的颤动——这就是我写下了这本集子中的那些文章的初衷和至今不变的期待。”散文就是随意写的,但内容却不随便,记录了作者的人生经验,分享了他的人生经验。这就是毕淑敏笔下的《毕淑敏散文》。
看来看去,让我印象最深刻的还是第一篇文章——幸福的镜片。“人在家居,心不设防,就像没打过麻疹疫苗的小儿,对情绪缺少抵抗力。一旦心境恶劣,极易传染他人。又因至爱亲朋,血脉相通,结果一人发火,污染全体,大家受难。”是啊,这虽然是一位妻子的感悟,但何尝又不是我们中学生现在的写照呢?我们的情况又何尝不是这样的呢?我们在朋友面前轻松愉快,拿得起,放得下,但回到家中,面对父母的几句好言唠叨,便忍受不住,轻者生气过后,就雨过天晴;叛逆的孩子却离家出走,被父母苦口婆心劝回来后,在她们没有顾及到自己的时候,把父母抖搂出来,无形地伤他们很深很深。但这一切都是父母的错吗?在你玩过之后,督促你的学业,这有错吗?我们不仅不能怪他们,也许这些话很刺耳,很糟糕,但这是为了谁?如果我们能少考虑自己的感受,去想想他们心中的感受,将心比心,我们是多么的幸福啊。他们要无时无刻操劳,还要四处想办法怎样才能让条件更加优越,他们从不停止的为我们创造条件,却从不享受这些条件,这是多么珍贵啊!我想这只有自己的父母才能为我们这样的不求回报的付出吧。
看现在的我们有的时候就像《农夫与蛇》中的蛇,好心的农夫救了冰冻快死的蛇,蛇不但不感激,反而咬了农夫。听这个故事时,我们不是也为农夫打抱不平么?感叹着农夫这样做不值得!其实,农夫不就是生活中自己的父母吗?苦口婆心的劝我们,为我们做着一切?我们却不懂报恩的反咬一口,无形地伤他们很深很深。而那条蛇就是我们,平时憎恨,谩骂的也就是我们。所以读《幸福的镜片》一文后,当我们的脾气放肆时的尴尬场面,哪怕你说一句“妈妈,你生气啦?”这样的一句话,只需这样一句话,气氛就缓解很多,父母就欣慰很多,自己也轻松很多。这句话在这种时候,我也对我的妈妈说过,很有用,妈妈脸上露出会心笑容,说:“一家人有什么好生气的,生什么气呀!”
“如果是苦难和灾异,比如亲朋远逝,祸起萧墙,泰山压顶,骤雨狂风……经了家庭镜片的折射,都应竭力缩小它的规模,淡化压力的强度,软化尖锐的硬度,控制哀痛的伤害……”嗯,无论是老师的批评,朋友的不信任,没有关系,回到了家,控制情绪,调节心态,放松自己,用心来好好的对待每一个人。你会发现家的港湾就是调节自己的最好良药,放大欢乐、缩小痛苦、忘记烦恼的“世外桃源”!
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