重庆协和心理顾问事务所所长、首席高级心理咨询师谭刚强说,如果一个孩子对家庭即将到来的新成员非常排斥,可以让他和其他小朋友玩在一起,让他接受更多的小伙伴,让他知道姐姐哥哥的好处,明白“接受”和“宽容”。
孩子在照顾其他伙伴时,家长要有意识地赞扬孩子的这种行为,逐步消退“自尊超前意识”,培养“兄弟姐妹感情”。
正是因为你的出现,我原本完整的爱被你抢去一半甚至更多。你真是一个成功的侵略者。
第一次见你时,你躺在上一秒是我妈,下一秒变咱妈的怀抱中安静的吃奶,一副霸道的模样,甚至都不屑于睁眼瞧瞧我。我一碰你,你就用粉嫩却十分有力的双脚蹬个不停。
虽然很不想承认,不过我确实被你可爱的样子萌到了。不过后来我才发现,可爱仅仅是你无辜的表象。以至于之后的很长一段时间,我的生活都被你这个莫名的闯入者搞得一团糟。
一 从医院回到家你就开始用你独特的方式宣告你的领地。卧室里,阳台上,全是你雪白的尿布。零食架上摆满了你的奶粉、奶瓶。衣柜里腾出一大块空间放你的小衣服 和鞋子。客厅里有你爬行用的彩色垫子,原本我放毛绒玩具的专属领地也堆满了你的各类玩具。我心痛的看见我的.芭比娃娃被你硕大的变形金刚踩在脚下,玩具小狗 被胡乱塞到你的火车车厢里驶向远方。就连空气里,也弥漫着浓浓痱子粉的气味儿。半夜被你的啼哭吵醒,又害得我一夜失眠。
于是,年仅十岁的我看着你在爸妈怀里吃香喝辣还不领情的哭闹时,真是委屈到不行。
三 年后,我正值向青春期过渡的羞涩年华,十三岁。而三岁的你正是调皮捣蛋的巅峰时期。于是你便将你“罪恶”的魔爪伸向了我。我不在仅一会工夫,你就可以爬上 我的书桌,撕碎我的作业,或直接拿笔在上面乱涂乱画。我情窦初开写的、小诗,也被你浸到了水里。就连我多年珍藏的小粘贴你也不放过,那天我一放学回家 便看到贴满整个玻璃的你的杰作,差点嗷的一声背过气去。
类似这样的案例真是数不胜数,拜你所赐,我的生活真是“丰富多彩”。
你 霸占了电视、电脑以及各种电子产品。家中无论什么事你总是优先。你的必***技是用无辜的满含委屈泪水的双眼奶声奶气的对爸妈说姐姐欺负我,然后在我被骂时趴 在爸妈宠溺的怀抱中冲我狡黠的眨眼。旁人有时会十分羡慕的对我说有个弟弟真好,一定很幸福吧,而我总是冷笑一声,说,白送要不要?
无忧是重庆人民小学4年级的一名男生,这个寒假,他写了一篇作文,在妈妈的朋友圈里引起了轰动,特别是作文的最后一句:“所以妈妈有我一个,就顶俩了!”让人印象深刻。
这篇作文的题目名叫《假如妈妈生二胎》。
“单纯从作文的角度来讲,其实还真的不错啦。”吴女士笑言,其实,虽然身边很多朋友一直在讨论生二胎这个话题,但对于38岁的她而言,确实没有考虑过再生一个的问题。
她掰着手指列数现实的门槛:“家里老人年岁大了、经济情况不允许、我的年龄也大了……”吴女士说,她翻看作文的时候,无忧表现得非常淡定。之后,她也只是跟无忧就作文本身探讨了几个写作上的小问题。
不过,当吴女士把无忧的作文发到朋友圈里后,大家的反应超乎她的预料。有朋友点评说:“通过举例子、作假设、用反证、旁证法等修饰手法,言简意赅、语重心长、目标明确地表达了作者的观点。特别是幼小作者在结尾处拍着幼弱的身躯提出全文核心观点,人不在多、关键是质量!进而信誓旦旦向父母作出保证:有我一个,一个顶俩!进一步深化了文章的格调!不愧为老大反对老二的最佳檄文!可供很多单独子女学习传阅!”
“其实无忧是个心思单纯的孩子,虽然他一直坚持反对生二胎,但他也常常说,生了就算了,并没有其他太极端的想法。”吴女士说,虽然没有生二胎的打算,但接下来,她肯定会就这个问题,与无忧好好沟通一下,毕竟,作为独生子女的无忧,今后要面对的还不仅仅是二胎的弟弟妹妹这一个问题。
It is known to all that loosening on the family planning policy decision has been made on the next-phase reform approved by the Third Plenum of the CPC’s 18th central committee which ended on 12,Nov.
However, before the policy was claimed, Chinese leaders thought population emerges as an issue, which should be controlled and approved a law on contraception and abortion .The population growing fast let the government included population control into the national economic development plan and requires government at all levels to increase family-planning work.
With time going by, we discover that one-child policy also has its disadvantage. A growing number of scholars has urged the government to reform the one-child policy ,introduced in the late 1970s to prevent population spiraling out of control, but now regarded by many experts as outdated and harmful to the economy. In recent years ,China ‘s fertility rate maintained at the level of
1.4%----1.5%,much lower than other developing countries .China’s low fertility level will not only lead to a shortage of the aging of the population and the labor force ,but also will reduce the potential growth rate of the economy. In addition , one-child policy makes
many families have only one child ,which makes the child feel lonely during his childhood .
After the policy fully implemented, it will affect 15000000 to 20000000 people in the national scope, among these couples about 50% to 60% would like to have a second children. The estimated number of new policy for infants range from 8000000 to 10000000. So we should pay more attention to who can have a second child and be rational when we choose whether to have a second child. In a word ,only in this way can the population not be a rapid growth in our country.
Emerging from the cartoon is an eye-catching scene that the parents are willing to have a second child, while their only child do not agree because of his worry that he doesn't want to have another child, even his own sibling, share toys with him. Simple as it is, the symbolic meaning revealed is profound and thought-provoking.
We are supposed to place our attention on, instead of its funny appearance, the implied meaning of the cartoon: as the overall second-child policy expands throughout China, some only children are so selfish that they cannot accept the second child in their family. What can account for this undesirable situation? For one thing, they, as the only child at home all the time, have no awareness of sharing what they like with others due to the fact that all the family members give their love to the only child. As a result, when faced with the problem of whether they are willing to have a sibling, their first response is to refuse it. For another reason, some couples are eager to have a second child as soon as possible, which makes them neglect to communicate with their only child to let them realize the advantage of having a sibling companion in their childhood.
From what has been discussed above, it's safe for me to conclude that it is urgent to take some immediate and effective measures. What I recommend is that parents should let child know the importance of sharing with others, which is beneficial for them in future life. In addition, it's better for parents to have more communication with their only child once they want to have a second child.
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