我20岁那年,经朋友介绍认识了现在的妻子雨惠(化名。
她和我同岁,是个非常温柔善良的姑娘。我是那种很“文艺”的人,非常相信自己的直觉,一见到雨惠就认定了她就是自己的梦中情人,可谓一见种情。由于雨惠的家和我不在一个地方,她也有自己的工作,所以我们平时只能靠鸿雁传书,小小的信纸盛满了我们彼此的深切思念。
天远拿出一个小本子对我说:“这是雨惠写给我的信,我把它们都抄在上面了。”笔记本很旧,已泛黄,样式是20年前的小学生流行用的那种,封面上会眨眼的女郎似乎在泄露天远和雨惠之间俏皮的情话。
雨惠的出现让我重新感受到爱的温情。我更加努力地工作,为的是能让雨惠将来跟着我过上好日子。两年后,我和雨惠终于拥有了一个共同的家。当时我的收入很微薄,结婚的花费对我来说简直是个天文数字,我东拼西凑,又向厂里每个职工各借了10块钱,总算将雨惠娶进了家。
有了爱人又有了家,便意味着有了责任,我这颗不安分的心开始驿动起来。雨惠原来是做裁缝的,我便想到了从汉正街批些衣服回来加工,例如打褊、熨烫之类的。就这样,我三天两头骑着自行车驮着货往来于家和汉正街之间,经常累得腰酸背痛。
雨惠比我更能吃苦,经常没日没夜地干。由于劳累过度,我们的第一个孩子流产了。看着伤心痛苦的雨惠我心里难受极了,我不仅没照顾好妻子反而让她跟着我吃苦。我发誓一定要赚大钱让雨惠过上好日子。
我没有让雨惠再继续干下去,自己揽下了所有的活,很快学会了熨烫衣服的技巧。凭着自己在铸造厂里的手艺,我用废钢铁做了一辆流动烫衣车,在村子里做起了熨烫衣裤的买卖。短短的三个月,我不仅还清了结婚欠下的债,还有了些积蓄。
尝到了赚钱的甜头,我再也不甘于只做些小买卖了。我辞掉了铸造厂的工作,放弃了烫衣的买卖,租了个门面,开始卖鞋。从开始只做鞋生意到卖各种各样的`小百货,一个仅6平方米的小门面越扩越大,三年后,我的商店成了当地最大的百货商店。这期间,我和雨惠有了第一个女儿。
可是好景不长,由于道路扩建,我的百货商店被拆除了。而我把这些年积攒的钱都用在了盖房子上,积蓄也所剩不多。我的脑袋又开始飞快地运转起来,一边先在家里开个副食店以保障日常生活,一边开始在外面奔波寻找商机。
When I was a freshman in college I watched the film Gua Sha Treatment for the first time, now I am a junior student and I come back to review the movie from a multicultural aspect, I have many different feelings after watching the film again.
At the beginning of the film, XuDatong is given an award and later he delivers a speech. What makes me impressed most is in his speech he says “one day I will become one of you, a truly successful American, today this award proved that America is a true land of opportunity and I am the living proof of that.” At that moment Xu thinks he has realized his American Dream totally with his lovingly wife and adorable son. However, I think it is ironical that to make a speech like that and I assume it is made on purpose to hind a clue for the story's development. How many non—American people have such a beautiful American dream? One of my classmate studies in American now and before he went aboard he told me his American dream is he can stand at the top of the New York. To be honest, I also dream that one day I can get the Green Card living there happily and successfully maybe working at the Wall Street. When Xu gets the award he thinks he entirely melted in the melting pot neglecting the multicultural obstruct, later the plot goes against the way he thinks. And later Quinlan asked Xu'why you be the scapegoat of your father?' Xu answers 'because he is Chinese.' Then maybe Xu knows that there is always a wide gap between Chinese and American cultures.
The second scene is Xu hit his son Denis because Denis hit the son of xu's boss, at the middle of the film xu tells his boss that he hit his own son is only to show his respect to his boss John Quinlan, that time Quinlan feels puzzled “what a Chinese logic”,yes, American can never understand such a logic full of Chinese characteristic, because they respect everyone including the children, they won't beat a child to please the boss, and there is no such a conception of degree between employee and employer, they feel everyone is equal, which is quite different from china.
Connected to the second scene, the third difference I want to analyze is the care for the children. In America, people pay more attention to the right of children which can be seen from the law—leaving children alone at home is illegal, while in China it is so common that almost everyone may experience such loneliness. And Children Welfare Agency does work in America which shows the importance Americans attach to children's right. What's more, I remember a line 'No one won the case, especially the child.' In my opinion, it also manifests the universal concern from the American public to the children.
The fourth aspect is following the procedure, in the film, more than there times, the people focus on the rule, the law, the procedure. At the Christmas Eve Xu wants to return back to his home pretending as a Santa Claus, what a pity, the security recognizes him and persuades 'you are always a good tenement, never causes troubles for me.' And another scene is at the end of the film , the judge says 'I have to follow the procedure.' However, in China people always have to ask for a favor to do something, and later you have to pay back the favor,for myself, I prefer the American style, strict to the procedure.
The fifth and the last point is the humors, Quinlan says 'you can't fall, your health security is the company paid.' 'Datong, welcome home, maybe next time, you can come from the front door.' 'dady, why you come from the window' ' because we don't have a chimney.' I really adore this distinguished American humor, especially in dangerous situations, which is quite rare in China.
That's my whole reaction to Gua Sha Treatment.
在外面闯荡久了,与社会接触多了,我渐渐发觉自己最缺乏的就是经验和知识。经验要靠不断的实战积累,急也急不来。但是对于我一个初中还没有毕业的人来说,学习起来就太难了。我尝试着去看一些营销学方面的书,读一些成功商人的传记和创业史,还在外面报了补习班。
1999年是我事业的开始。我平时喜欢摄影,所以在外面寻找商机的时候刻意去接触照相机市场。为了保险起见,刚开始时,我只是摆了个柜台卖相机。后来偶然在一次展销会上,我的营销额超出了平时的三四倍。我觉得这是一个很好的商机,于是不断深入,只要一有展销就跑去凑热闹。多次的现场考察,为我后来进入展销行业打下了良好的基础。
天远自豪地笑着说:“在商业展销这一行,我算个名人,圈子里都知道,你随便一打听就能打听到我。”
去年,我开了一家以自己名字命名的创业中心,专门为自己的展销会培养和输送人才。至此,我已经有了自己的一套经营系统,能够独立完成从人才培养到公司运作的全过程。
天远谈起自己的生意经时滔滔不绝,说实在的,我对他的生意并不感兴趣,当我问起他的家庭生活时,他的表情一下子僵住了,原本亮光烁烁的眼神一下子变得黯淡无光。
我和雨惠两人都太要强了,雨惠似乎总在跟我争着比着赚钱,她总说一个女人如果经济不独立,人格就不独立。她不想当个闲人,总想有自己的事业,这一点我很理解也很支持。但她又不懂得做生意,每次都不听我的劝告一意孤行,她养过蛇、果子狸等五花八门的东西,现在又在鼓捣着种蘑菇。每次都失败了。赔钱倒是其次,但每次失败后她自己心情很糟,然后又将这种恶劣的心情带到家庭中来,于是,便争吵不断。
以前日子艰难时夫妻俩好恩爱,现在日子好过了,我有了自己的事业,夫妻间反倒生出这许多矛盾。我真是想不明白这是怎么回事。
我替他分析,是不是两人的经营观念有分歧,天远做的生意,带有营销性,是那种无本生意,利润大风险也大;而雨惠热心于养殖业,无异是倾向于脚踏实地做生意。天远一个劲地点头:“对对对!她就是这个意思,她觉得我整个人都是漂着的,没根没底,太不稳定,而她做的事都是看得见摸得着的。”
我觉得我们两个人的距离越来越远,越来越没有共同语言,甚至到了无法交流的地步。现在,她居然向我提出离婚。
我问:“那你答应离婚吗?”
“当然不愿意!”天远的回答带着斩钉截铁的味道。
我对雨惠的爱从没有变过,我相信她也一样仍然深爱着我。我们的感情没有问题,是价值观念的不同。
我真的不想就这样结束我们的婚姻,毕竟我们两个经历了那么多的风风雨雨,好不容易才走到今天。我无法想象,失去雨惠,我将会怎么样。我想那种情境,一定像又回到了我13岁那年。
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