如今,E-mail与人们E-mail日常生活日益密切,发E-mail也成了时尚。但是发E-mail是,你是否注意过发E-mail的礼仪呢?
在中文内容的E-mail里彬彬有礼的字眼很容易表现出来。但若你需要发送E-mail时,要注意尽量不要出现大写字母,因为在外国人眼中,大写字母的.单词在网上意味着喊叫。
相信大家发E-mail时都用过“抄送”这个功能。“抄送”可以将同一封信发给两个或更多的人。这种功能虽然使大家更为简便,但若你将信发给两个外国人,他们一旦大限此事,他们就回认为你并不尊重他们。
无论你是处于什么目的,都切不可随意乱发垃圾邮件。你知道吗?在外国有一家公司,因为长期受到来自中国的垃圾邮件的困扰,索性将垃圾邮箱的后缀名的信箱封锁起来。使带有哪个邮箱所发的信全都无法发送。虽然停止了垃圾邮件的困扰,但使不少正常的邮件无法发送。
当今的E-mail样式多种多样,往往在E-mail中插上一段音乐,一幅图画,都令人高心无比。E-mail已日益被人们所接受。就如平日的寄信,发E-mail何尝不需要礼仪呢?多一个Hello,少一分粗鲁,我们的网络世界才能更加美好。
文明包含物质文明和精神文明两大部分,青铜器、璧玉、瓷器、书画等见证了灿烂的中华物质文明。自古就被尊崇为礼仪之邦的中国,更有着自己严谨的礼仪规范。我们的先人是很注重文明礼貌的。
几乎世界所有的著名博物馆,都藏有中国书画、瓷器、古鼎。中国有理由为自己的物质文明而自豪。然而我们的礼仪文明却在逐渐消失,中国人的许多陋习,常常被西方国家嗤之以鼻,作为不文明的佐证。这一方面说明老外并不了解中国,同时也说明我们自己在糟蹋先人的懿范。常州籍的史学家钱穆先生在会见一位美国学者时说:“中国的核心思想就是‘礼’”。所谓“礼”就是按照道德理性的要求,制定出来的行为规范。
“礼”的目标是实现社会的和谐。这个和谐包括四个方面:人与自然的和谐、政府与民众之间的和谐、人际和谐,以及自身的和谐。礼的本质在于相互尊重,所谓“礼尚往来”“来而不往非礼也”,表达的就是相互尊重的中华礼仪文明本质。
敬是尊重的具体表现,也是中华文明的核心。《礼记》开头第一句就是“毋不敬”。对长辈、对同事不要有不敬之心。尊敬可以在日常生活行动中得到体现。比如在重要场合,步履稳重而不轻浮,更不能在人群中乱窜,这叫做“足容重”;与人交谈或听别人讲话时,眼睛要看着对方,不能心不在焉。这叫做“目容端”;在礼仪场合不能吃东西,一边吃东西一边与人讲话就很不礼貌。与人交谈时,声音要尽量放小,这叫做“口容止”。这些虽是琐事,但它却能体现出一个人的修养和文明素质。
雅,也是文明的`内容。孔子说:“质胜文则野,文胜质则史。文质彬彬,然后君子。”孔子是说,一个人如果强调了质朴率真,而忽略了文采风度,那么就会显得粗野。我们现在有些人,出口成脏,还振振有词的说什么“我是大老粗”。好像大老粗就高人一等,就可以不讲文明似的。但光有文采风度而缺乏质朴率真的秉性,就显得虚伪。文中的史,本意是指宗庙里的祝史,或官府之书吏,这些人往往显得虚伪,所以“史”在这里当轻浮虚伪讲。“质胜文则野,文胜质则史”的意思是:性情过于直率就显得粗鲁,举止过于谦恭反而让人觉得虚伪。只有质朴的本性与谦和的文采兼备,才能算得上君子。这就是孔子提出的“文质彬彬”模式,这个模式一直被我们当明形象的典范。
西方人在这方面似乎并不十分注重,他们有时很绅士,有时又很鲁。他们有时西装革履、领带笔挺。显得很有风度。有时又坦胸露乳,非常随便。我们现在的许多年轻人很快就学会了他们粗鲁的一面,许多小姑娘的上衣越来越上,裤子越来越下,中间露出一大截。老外说中国人粗野,其实我们有许多粗野,都是跟他们学的。
我们现在似乎过分注重了西方文明,而忽略了自己的文明传统。比如现在的礼仪培训,就有许多如何结领带、如何切牛排、如何涂口红,乃至如何与异性贴脸,什么场合吻额头,什么场合吻手等礼节。理由是适应改革开放的需要,其实改革开放不仅仅是要我们了解世界,同时也要让世界了解我们。应该让他们知道,我们有自己的文明,有自己的礼仪文化。在礼仪培训中,我们就应该多讲讲“足容重”“目容端”“口容止”等具有“中国特色”的文明。也让老外知道,中华民族是一个彬彬有礼的民族,中国人无需更多的效仿老外,而是要展示我们自己文明。
2011.8.25.
Do you ever watch movies from other countries? Whenever I do, I think about how similar people really are all around the world. Even though the cultures and languages in those movies are different from mine, people all around the world are alike in their goals and emotions.
One time, I saw a movie made in china that showed parents helping their children with their homework. . My parents helped me the same way. Another time I saw a movie from Argentina. It showed school children playing hide and seek, which is a game I used to play with my friends during recess. Seeing these films demonstrated to me that education is a common goal in every country. Parents want their children to learn so their lives will improve. It also showed me that children in schools everywhere wants to play with their friends. Sometimes the games are similar to ours and sometimes they’re different. Still, they all have the common purpose of fun and learning to work together.
Earning a living is another common goal. I’ve often seen that in movies about other countries. In some countries, people choose their careers from what they like and are good at. In other countries, careers are chosen for them following the traditions of their families. But in every country it seems that people care a great deal about earning a living, and working hard is respected.
Showing people having fun together is always an important part of any movies, no matter what country it comes from. People everywhere want to be entertained, and want to spend time with their families and friends. Different cultures sometimes enjoy different activities, but all cultures enjoy some form of sports, music and dancing.
The movies I’ve seen make it clear to me that no matter the cultural differences between countries, people everywhere have the same basic needs and goals.
上周,我妈妈要去看望我爷爷奶奶两天,所以她让我一个人呆在家里照顾好自己。我很高兴并答应她会照顾好一切的。我终于可以独自生活了。因此,我睡得很晚,也玩了很长时间的电脑游戏,饿的`时候,我就点外卖。妈妈回来的时候,她非常的惊讶,因为房子乱七八糟。我知道我不能照顾好自己。
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