考得高,给予的是亲吻;考得低,施与的是巴掌。从亲吻和巴掌之间,也看出家长对孩子教育方式的问题。
面 对分数,漫画里那个隐形的家长只是简单地否定或肯定,却没有想到培养孩子分析问题、解决问题的能力。分数只是一个数字,真正的含义在于它反映出学生的学习 状态和学习方法。分数出来之后,反思之前的学习状态,分析总结进步和退步的原因。由此培养孩子从现象到本质的逻辑思维能力。如果只是简单地给一个巴掌或一 个亲吻,孩子能从中得到什么益处和思考吗?棍棒之下的教育,也许能培养出对权威服从的孩子,却无法培养有思想的公民。唯分数论英雄的家长,难以培养出全面 发展、有情感有担当的孩子。
总而言之,家长应该把孩子当作有独立思想的人来培养,让孩子真正懂得学习,懂得思考。
Do you ever watch movies from other countries? Whenever I do, I think about how similar people really are all around the world. Even though the cultures and languages in those movies are different from mine, people all around the world are alike in their goals and emotions.
One time, I saw a movie made in china that showed parents helping their children with their homework. . My parents helped me the same way. Another time I saw a movie from Argentina. It showed school children playing hide and seek, which is a game I used to play with my friends during recess. Seeing these films demonstrated to me that education is a common goal in every country. Parents want their children to learn so their lives will improve. It also showed me that children in schools everywhere wants to play with their friends. Sometimes the games are similar to ours and sometimes they’re different. Still, they all have the common purpose of fun and learning to work together.
Earning a living is another common goal. I’ve often seen that in movies about other countries. In some countries, people choose their careers from what they like and are good at. In other countries, careers are chosen for them following the traditions of their families. But in every country it seems that people care a great deal about earning a living, and working hard is respected.
Showing people having fun together is always an important part of any movies, no matter what country it comes from. People everywhere want to be entertained, and want to spend time with their families and friends. Different cultures sometimes enjoy different activities, but all cultures enjoy some form of sports, music and dancing.
The movies I’ve seen make it clear to me that no matter the cultural differences between countries, people everywhere have the same basic needs and goals.
我不知道什么时候,“好说话”变成了一种贬义词,难道我为你开了方便之门,你反倒要回过头来嘲笑我?
难道善意的援助,在别人眼里反倒会成为好欺负的标志?
我不认同他们的话,但有时不得不承认,生活中总有那么几个“不知好歹”的白眼狼,一边消费你的善意,一边还要嘲笑你的“无知”。
比如我就曾遇到过这样的人。
因为当过省编的关系,很多人会来咨询我一些投稿的问题,面对大家的询问,我能解答的都会知无不言,言无不尽。
但时间久了,那些求帮忙的人反倒肆无忌惮起来,刚开始还是客客气气地发给你一篇稿子,希望你给他提点意见,到后来干脆连谢谢都没有,随便得好像两个人可以称兄道弟。
我并不是需要那一句“谢谢”,也不是要求他们给我什么“好处”,我只是希望,当我熬夜给你看稿子,把我知道的一五一十告诉你时,你要明白,不是所有人都闲得没事做才去帮你,那些在你求助时能及时回复你的'人,只是将心比心。
我们都过求人的难处,我们也理解你的心境,所以我们毫无保留地给予你帮助,让你轻而易举地得到你渴求的答复。
但往往事与愿违,我的善意却被你当做家常便饭,我的帮助变成了理所当然。那么,抱歉。我对你的帮助我收回,以前是我太善良,现在我该用那些人常用的伎俩,对你“狠”一点。
的确,当我不再那么热心时,那些求我帮忙的人,反而开始珍惜我的每一次帮助,我额外的工作量少了,大家对我的态度反而好了许多。
但我知道,每一次当我话只说一半,其余一半留给他自己去悟时,你将又要多绕一个弯;当我不再理会微信里时不时冒出的消息时,我明白,又会有几个还在奋斗路上打拼的人失望。
很残酷,很无奈,但又很现实,有时候,你走的那条路是你自己铺就的,我们给你扫掉几块石头你不乐意,那好吧,剩下的留给你自己,没有人会去帮你。
越轻易得到,就越不会珍惜,这已经成为所有人的共识。
所以恋爱讲欲擒故纵,女孩不会轻易答应男孩的求爱;所以“前辈”们讲架子,摆出一副“贵人语迟”的样子。
有人责怪是对方太清高,可惜你忘了,每个人在出生时都是一张白纸,只不过是那些不懂得珍惜的人太多,我们才不愿意再做个一味付出的“傻子”。
如果你不珍惜轻而易举打开的方便之门,那么你有何理由埋怨自己阻碍重重?
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