重庆协和心理顾问事务所所长、首席高级心理咨询师谭刚强说,如果一个孩子对家庭即将到来的新成员非常排斥,可以让他和其他小朋友玩在一起,让他接受更多的小伙伴,让他知道姐姐哥哥的好处,明白“接受”和“宽容”。
孩子在照顾其他伙伴时,家长要有意识地赞扬孩子的这种行为,逐步消退“自尊超前意识”,培养“兄弟姐妹感情”。
无忧是这个小男孩的小名,无忧的妈妈吴女士说,以前曾跟儿子开玩笑说起过,如果再生个小弟弟或小妹妹,就取名叫“无虑”。
不过,在妈妈是否生二胎这个问题上,无忧还真的做不到“无忧无虑”。
吴女士说,这篇作文其实是根据她拟定的题目,无忧写的“命题作文”。原本写个作文需要一个上午的时间,但这次,无忧只花了两个多小时就一气呵成。
“以前我们就跟他聊起过,如果妈妈再生一个弟弟或妹妹,他是否同意。对这个问题,他一直是持反对的态度。”吴女士说,恰好这个寒假,老师布置了6个作文,没有具体的命题。那一天,吴女士就跟无忧说,如果他不同意妈妈生二胎,可以写篇作文,阐述清楚自己的理由来说服大人们。
无忧几乎没有犹豫就应承了下来。事后,吴女士并没有第一时间去看儿子的作文,还是家里的'老人告诉她,“那篇作文写得还不错哟,有理有据的。”吴女士说,原本开学就要检查作业,随后她翻开了无忧写的那篇作文。
在这篇作文里,无忧从多个角度举例来说明了二胎的不利因素:要多花钱,老人更累,如果不听话又笨,那怎么办?“不怕一万,就怕万一,反正不生最好。”
It is known to all that loosening on the family planning policy decision has been made on the next-phase reform approved by the Third Plenum of the CPC’s 18th central committee which ended on 12,Nov.
However, before the policy was claimed, Chinese leaders thought population emerges as an issue, which should be controlled and approved a law on contraception and abortion .The population growing fast let the government included population control into the national economic development plan and requires government at all levels to increase family-planning work.
With time going by, we discover that one-child policy also has its disadvantage. A growing number of scholars has urged the government to reform the one-child policy ,introduced in the late 1970s to prevent population spiraling out of control, but now regarded by many experts as outdated and harmful to the economy. In recent years ,China ‘s fertility rate maintained at the level of
1.4%----1.5%,much lower than other developing countries .China’s low fertility level will not only lead to a shortage of the aging of the population and the labor force ,but also will reduce the potential growth rate of the economy. In addition , one-child policy makes
many families have only one child ,which makes the child feel lonely during his childhood .
After the policy fully implemented, it will affect 15000000 to 20000000 people in the national scope, among these couples about 50% to 60% would like to have a second children. The estimated number of new policy for infants range from 8000000 to 10000000. So we should pay more attention to who can have a second child and be rational when we choose whether to have a second child. In a word ,only in this way can the population not be a rapid growth in our country.
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