重庆协和心理顾问事务所所长、首席高级心理咨询师谭刚强说,如果一个孩子对家庭即将到来的新成员非常排斥,可以让他和其他小朋友玩在一起,让他接受更多的小伙伴,让他知道姐姐哥哥的好处,明白“接受”和“宽容”。
孩子在照顾其他伙伴时,家长要有意识地赞扬孩子的这种行为,逐步消退“自尊超前意识”,培养“兄弟姐妹感情”。
“单纯从作文的角度来讲,其实还真的不错啦。”吴女士笑言,其实,虽然身边很多朋友一直在讨论生二胎这个话题,但对于38岁的她而言,确实没有考虑过再生一个的问题。
她掰着手指列数现实的门槛:“家里老人年岁大了、经济情况不允许、我的年龄也大了……”吴女士说,她翻看作文的时候,无忧表现得非常淡定。之后,她也只是跟无忧就作文本身探讨了几个写作上的小问题。
不过,当吴女士把无忧的作文发到朋友圈里后,大家的反应超乎她的预料。有朋友点评说:“通过举例子、作假设、用反证、旁证法等修饰手法,言简意赅、语重心长、目标明确地表达了作者的观点。特别是幼小作者在结尾处拍着幼弱的身躯提出全文核心观点,人不在多、关键是质量!进而信誓旦旦向父母作出保证:有我一个,一个顶俩!进一步深化了文章的格调!不愧为老大反对老二的最佳檄文!可供很多单独子女学习传阅!”
“其实无忧是个心思单纯的孩子,虽然他一直坚持反对生二胎,但他也常常说,生了就算了,并没有其他太极端的想法。”吴女士说,虽然没有生二胎的打算,但接下来,她肯定会就这个问题,与无忧好好沟通一下,毕竟,作为独生子女的无忧,今后要面对的还不仅仅是二胎的弟弟妹妹这一个问题。
Emerging from the cartoon is an eye-catching scene that the parents are willing to have a second child, while their only child do not agree because of his worry that he doesn't want to have another child, even his own sibling, share toys with him. Simple as it is, the symbolic meaning revealed is profound and thought-provoking.
We are supposed to place our attention on, instead of its funny appearance, the implied meaning of the cartoon: as the overall second-child policy expands throughout China, some only children are so selfish that they cannot accept the second child in their family. What can account for this undesirable situation? For one thing, they, as the only child at home all the time, have no awareness of sharing what they like with others due to the fact that all the family members give their love to the only child. As a result, when faced with the problem of whether they are willing to have a sibling, their first response is to refuse it. For another reason, some couples are eager to have a second child as soon as possible, which makes them neglect to communicate with their only child to let them realize the advantage of having a sibling companion in their childhood.
From what has been discussed above, it's safe for me to conclude that it is urgent to take some immediate and effective measures. What I recommend is that parents should let child know the importance of sharing with others, which is beneficial for them in future life. In addition, it's better for parents to have more communication with their only child once they want to have a second child.
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