Dear Dad,
Thank you very much for your letter written to me. In your letter , you not only expressed your expectation to me , but also showed all your love to me . I was deeply moved . Thanks again ,Daddy .You said ," I hope you get bravery and perseverance, and can quickly grasp living skills like a lion ". Now I want to tell you that I will try my best to do everything well and live up to your expectations . Dear father , you are a great lion in my mind .
When I am absent mind , when I am depressed, you , my dear father is always there . Your advice and encouragement guide me through many difficulties . Thank you , Dad, for your help and understanding.
I love you , Dad ,forever!
Dear David:
I am afraid that you will think me unpardonably negligent in not having answered your letter dated 7, December sooner, but when I have told you the reason, I trust you will be convinced that the neglect was excusable. When your letter arrived, I was just in Hong Kong. As my family could not forward it to me during my absence, it has been, therefore, lying on my desk until the moment when I took it up. Now the first thing I have to hasten to do is to write to you these few lines to express my deep regret.
I enjoyed many pleasant sights during my trip. I shall be pleased to give you an account to of them when I see you next.
Sincerely yours,
Tom
其实,也是说生涯咨询产生的原因。
来做咨询的人有些是对于职业生涯缺少安全感的,有些是不能对自我产生一致认同的,有些是不能适应当下变化,有些是难以面对未来变化,有些是对于个人的自我实现产生焦虑的,有些是对于生存和成就心怀不安的。而所有这一切表现,有都源于这个时代的职业世界新的发展和变化。
组织越来越无边界,职业形势越来越变化多端,职业任务越来越不确定,战略和结构越来越多变。这个社会是流动的,职业是流动的,组织是流动的,人更是流动的。处于流动中的人,迫切需要更强的安全感来应对这样的变化。这样的安全感来自于一个人内心对于自我的认同,这样的认同是职业生涯中长期积累出来自我认知,来自于自我认识,也来自于外界评价和生涯事件影响。这样的安全感还来自于一个人对于变化环境的适应力,表现为遇到挫折的复原力以及快速学习力。
从这种认同和适应力来说,90后具备更强的安全感,也更容易理解了。因为父母逐渐觉醒的认可意识,90后在成长过程中获得肯定较多,干预较少,他们整体处于一种认同相对一致性的环境中。同时,因为物质相对丰富,有更多接触不同事物的机会,适应性是从小就积累出来的。
也正是从认同与适应力的角度,萨维科斯在这本书中讲到,“在一个不确定的世界,发展技能和才智固然重要,但是这却无法替代一种踏实的自我感。”我对此有强烈共鸣,总有人会说,生涯咨询有什么用呢?不会告诉我最适合做什么,如果来了经济危机,大家都失业了,还不是要看一技之长。我想说,真的不是这样的。技能固然重要,关键还要看是谁在掌握。那种有着强一致的认同感和适应力的人,对于一次经济危机的应对,绝不会比任何一个技艺高手差。与此同时,人们的焦虑并非都来自于物质匮乏和工作机会,这些都是直接来源,所产生的影响并未完全传导出来。此时,人们更加需要生涯咨询解除迷茫,产生更为直接的行动力和乐观态度。
这样不确定的时代产生了一个应对不确定的生涯咨询,这是必然。必然如何实现呢?下周接着说吧,后现代建构的生涯咨询如何发挥作用的。
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