让孩子每天和父母聊聊,可以让家长更了解他们的变化,也能让他们多了解父母的苦心,也可以减少两代人思想观念上的分歧,进而让孩子和父母做朋友。
王小明自从上了高中,渐渐发现和父母没有共同话题了。王小明的父母只有初中学历,他说:\"我老爸老妈连怎么上网都不知道,居然以为电子邮件要到邮局去收。他们整天只知道叫我多吃点儿,多穿件衣服,我真遇到什么问题,比如学习上的,却一点儿都帮不上忙。我真不知要说他们什么好。\"
晓军说起和父母沟通的事情,就觉得很头疼,他一脸埋怨地说:\"老妈太八卦了,关于我的什么事都要知道,经常打电话给老师不说,还成天向同学打探我的事,查看家里的电话记录,搞得我一点隐私都没有了。老妈这么有’办法’,还需要我跟她说什么呢?\"
小菲学习很优秀,最近一位师哥经常找她聊天,有不少同学都起哄,说小菲和师哥\"恋爱\"了。小菲对这种起哄感到很不安。家教甚严的她在爸妈面前很心虚,生怕自己在言语中不小心泄露这个秘密,于是每天除了必要的礼节性对话外,小菲总是借口要学习,很少主动跟爸妈交谈了,经常是大人问一句,她答一句,就像完成任务一样。
一般来说,上了中学以后,青少年的自我意识逐渐增强,有强烈的独立自主的愿望,很多孩子和父母的关系也在不知不觉中疏远了。
而沟通本身就不是一件容易的事情。家长有时候虽然表面上与孩子相处得很好,可内心并不相通,经常觉得自己并没有真正理解孩子,而孩子也没真正理解自己。
当然,身为父母很愿意和孩子多多沟通,甚至恨不得孩子把他们真正的想法都告诉自己。但这种霸道的\"沟通\",其实并不是什么沟通,至少你还没有把孩子当做一个独立的人来尊重,仍旧认为他(她还是没有长大的孩子。假如家长不能抛弃这种想法,就无法和孩子之间搭建一个平等交流的桥梁,更无从谈及真正的沟通了。
友泽是一个贪玩儿的孩子。一次,老师准备组织学生去郊游,但不幸的是,天下雨了,因此,这次活动被取消了。
友泽感到很郁闷,他怒气冲冲地赶回家。一进门,他甩下书包,一头栽倒在床上,一句话不说。父亲见了,决定和他谈谈。父亲用手拍一下友泽,用对待大人一样的口吻说:\"小伙子,你看上去很不开心,有什么不高兴的`事吗?可以跟我说说吗?\"
本来任性的友泽在生气的时候不愿和任何人说话,但这次居然例外了。他抬起脸看了一会儿爸爸,然后坐起来,把下午去郊游的事情跟爸爸说了一遍。
爸爸听完他的话后说道:\"这雨什么时候下不好,偏偏这个时候下,真是的。\"
友泽紧跟着说:\"是啊,为什么现在下呢?\"
这时,双方沉默了一会儿,然后友泽说:\"哎,这次不行,可以等到以后再去。\"显然,他现在平静了许多,并没有脾气。通常,只要友泽气愤地跑回家,坏情绪就会影响到全家人,使每个人都不开心。这种情况会一直持续到他睡后才会结束。没想到,今天父亲的一席话竟让他变得乖巧起来。
要想与孩子沟通,了解他们的内心世界,就必须要善于抓住他们的心理特点,想办法让孩子愿意和家长经常聊天,把家长当做朋友。
Dear mom:
A: hello!
Mom this is my first time to write to you, so some shame.
How are you recently? Have a smooth work! How your mood these days, I have no dont care you one day.
How much I miss you, do you give me the rice, how delicious, I often dream of in the evening I went to the kitchen to steal to eat the food you do.
Mom you sit down and rest for a while! Dont be so hard to cook for us after work every day, every day we wash clothes... Every time after the meal, I want to help you wash the dishes, you say you dont have to tube chores, you just mind your own learning. Himself out of one eye, I am full of tears.
Ah! Mother I love you.
I wish you the best
Healthy body, the work is smooth.
Dear parents:
You are good! Thank you for you when I was growing up, to my care and meticulous care, what I have to ask you can satisfy me. Its always hot in summer, I kick a quilt, every time you gently help me cover the quilt, winter will give me a cup of hot milk before you go to sleep at night.
But your weight to all have no standing in my point of view, only think about how I. Now I have grown up, is not a two year old the child, I want your decision and judgment. Please dont pressure me again, had a lot of pressure on learning, you can put the gas pressure can reduce the?
Although you do not perfect, but what are the parents in the world perfect? Youll always be my favorite people. Is you give me life, let me come to this beautiful world and everywhere is full of love. I must study hard, to repay you.
The Best Way of Traveling最好的旅游方式
People travel by plane, by train, by ship, by bus. To me, the best way of traveling on a summer vacation is to go on foot.人们会乘坐飞机、火车、轮船、公交车去旅游。对于我来说,最好的旅游方式是暑假期间徒步旅游。
On a summer vacation I travel to refresh myself and to see the countryside. When I use my feet and walk on a grass covered path or among the hills I feel detached from the noise of the city and closer to the nature. And when I travel on foot I get more freedom. I can plan my own schedule. I can choose my own route. I can stop where I like. And I can see things and people that I might miss if I travel on a train or on a bus.暑假的时候,我通过旅游去释放自己和游览乡间。当我用双脚走在铺满小草的小径或山间时,我感觉(自己)远离城市的喧嚣,并且更亲近大自然。当我徒步旅行时我可以得到更多的自由。我可以自己选择行程。我可以自己选择路线。只要喜欢,我就可以停下来。而且我可以看到很多人和事,那些我可能乘坐火车或公车旅行而错失的。
When faster and more convenient ways for travel are becoming available, I still favor using my own feet. I get much pleasure from it. 当更快、更方便的旅游方式变成通用的,我仍然支持用自己的双脚(旅行),我从中得到了许多乐趣。
The Best Way of Traveling最好的旅游方式
People travel by plane, by train, by ship, by bus. For me, the best way of traveling on a summer vacation is to go on foot.人们去旅游有的乘飞机、有的坐火车、坐船、乘公共汽车。对我来说在暑假,最好的方式是徒步旅行。
My preference depends on the purpose of the travel. On a summer vacation I travel to refresh myself and to see the countryside. When I use my feet and walk on a grass covered path along a river or among the hills I feel detached from the noise of the city and closer to the nature. And when I travel on foot I get more freedom. I can plan my own schedule. I can choose my own route. I can stop where I like. And I can see things and people that I might miss if I travel on a train or on a bus.我的偏好取决于旅行的目的.。在暑假我旅游是为了消除疲劳并欣赏乡村美景。当我沿着河流或在群山之间走在一条青草覆盖的路上时,我觉得我远离了城市的喧嚣、亲近了自然。徒步旅行,使我很自由。我可以自己安排行程。可以选择我自己的路线。我可以把车子停在我喜欢的地方。而且我可以遇到那些坐火车或公共汽车会错过的人和事。
When faster and more convenient ways for travel are becoming available, I still favor using my own feet. I get much pleasure from it. People travel by plane, by train, by ship, by bus. To me, the best way of traveling on a summer vacation is to go on foot.当更迅速、更方便的方式使旅游变得更便捷,我仍然热衷于徒步旅行。我从中得到许多乐趣。人们去旅游有的乘飞机、有的坐火车、坐船、乘公共汽车。对我来说在暑假,最好的方式是徒步旅行。
【words】
1、preference v.偏爱;倾向;优先权
e.g. I don\'t know your preferences, so please help yourself.
2、refresh v.使……恢复;使……清新;消除……的疲劳
e.g. I refresh myself with a cup of coffee.
3、detach v.分离;派遣 ;分开
e.g. A number of soldiers were detached to guard the building .
4、available adj. 有效的;可得的;可利用的;空闲的
e.g. The only time available is Friday.
5、convenient adj. 方便的
e.g. It is quite convenient for customers.
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