太上进的人一旦付出努力,就会给自己带来极大的结果压力。一旦结果没有达到自己的期望,就会自责和不快乐。一个太上进的.,往往会忽略了过程中的快乐,而片面追求结果的快感,把多少兴趣都毁了。
Father's Day
Yesterday was Father's Day. I had planned to give my father a present. But I didn't remember it until in the morning.It was too late to post a card to him. So I decided to buy something. When I was in the department store. I found it was not easy for me to choose something right for him. Suddenly I
got an idea. I ran home and opened my computer. I made a beautiful card and mailed him through the Internet. then I began to make supper. When father came home, he was very glad to find a big meal on the table. then I asked him to check his e-mail. He was amazed to find a beautiful card in his e-mail-box.
What a wonderful surprise!
有些时候,当你对某件事情想要更努力而又十分抗拒的时候,有可能你真的没有很喜欢那件事。过于违背自己内心意愿的事情,很难长久坚持下去。
读完后,发现作者说的是有道理的。太上进,往往就会自己要求过高,太过于追求结果,急于求成,往往给自己造成很大的压力。这种压力会让自己产生焦虑、恐惧,增加了自己的内耗,不能把精力专注于事情本身。当不能实现自己的高目标时,因为太上进又会自责,所以就会更加努力,可结果未必尽如人意,进入恶性循环。
因为过于追求结果,就会忽视了过程中的反思。没有反思,找不到问题的症结所在,再努力,也是收效甚微。这种挫败感,更会打击人的信心,甚至怀疑自己的努力。
不是不能上进,只是别太过了,过犹不及!
“阿嚏!”“阿嚏!”我在床上不停地打着喷嚏,整张床差点被我震坏!自从我得了什么会传染的皮肤病和重感冒以后,烦恼多多,而且家里人想和我亲近也万万不可了。
早上我从床上爬起来,像酒鬼一样,摇摇摆摆地走到书房里。表姐正坐在电脑前津津有味地看文件,我想、过去瞧一瞧,便慢慢地“摇”了过去。表姐连忙拱手相让,很不情愿地对我说:“大瑶小侠,你这病可真好啊!谁让我这个做表姐的这么苦命啊!”我笑了笑,说:“没关系!”可我心里却很难受,因为我不能和大家靠近了。传染病不但会造成这样隔阂,而且也让我彻底禁食了,这个不能喝,这个也不能吃。我刚从冰箱里拿出一个冰淇淋,正要往嘴里送,这时弟弟正好从房间里出来,看到了,得意地说:“你不能吃冰淇淋的,姐姐!不是我不让你吃,是医生说的!”说着,多事的老弟便把我的冰淇淋放进了自己的嘴里……
第二天,我的重感冒更“活泼”了,去酒店吃饭的.时候,喷嚏打个不停。我不小心一个“阿嚏”,把从身边走过的小妹妹吓得直打哆嗦,当时也手足无措! 哎!生病的烦恼可真多,真不好受啊!因此,我一定要“锻炼,锻炼,再锻炼”。练成一个体质顶级的超人,让病魔远离我!
When I was a freshman in college I watched the film Gua Sha Treatment for the first time, now I am a junior student and I come back to review the movie from a multicultural aspect, I have many different feelings after watching the film again.
At the beginning of the film, XuDatong is given an award and later he delivers a speech. What makes me impressed most is in his speech he says “one day I will become one of you, a truly successful American, today this award proved that America is a true land of opportunity and I am the living proof of that.” At that moment Xu thinks he has realized his American Dream totally with his lovingly wife and adorable son. However, I think it is ironical that to make a speech like that and I assume it is made on purpose to hind a clue for the story's development. How many non—American people have such a beautiful American dream? One of my classmate studies in American now and before he went aboard he told me his American dream is he can stand at the top of the New York. To be honest, I also dream that one day I can get the Green Card living there happily and successfully maybe working at the Wall Street. When Xu gets the award he thinks he entirely melted in the melting pot neglecting the multicultural obstruct, later the plot goes against the way he thinks. And later Quinlan asked Xu'why you be the scapegoat of your father?' Xu answers 'because he is Chinese.' Then maybe Xu knows that there is always a wide gap between Chinese and American cultures.
The second scene is Xu hit his son Denis because Denis hit the son of xu's boss, at the middle of the film xu tells his boss that he hit his own son is only to show his respect to his boss John Quinlan, that time Quinlan feels puzzled “what a Chinese logic”,yes, American can never understand such a logic full of Chinese characteristic, because they respect everyone including the children, they won't beat a child to please the boss, and there is no such a conception of degree between employee and employer, they feel everyone is equal, which is quite different from china.
Connected to the second scene, the third difference I want to analyze is the care for the children. In America, people pay more attention to the right of children which can be seen from the law—leaving children alone at home is illegal, while in China it is so common that almost everyone may experience such loneliness. And Children Welfare Agency does work in America which shows the importance Americans attach to children's right. What's more, I remember a line 'No one won the case, especially the child.' In my opinion, it also manifests the universal concern from the American public to the children.
The fourth aspect is following the procedure, in the film, more than there times, the people focus on the rule, the law, the procedure. At the Christmas Eve Xu wants to return back to his home pretending as a Santa Claus, what a pity, the security recognizes him and persuades 'you are always a good tenement, never causes troubles for me.' And another scene is at the end of the film , the judge says 'I have to follow the procedure.' However, in China people always have to ask for a favor to do something, and later you have to pay back the favor,for myself, I prefer the American style, strict to the procedure.
The fifth and the last point is the humors, Quinlan says 'you can't fall, your health security is the company paid.' 'Datong, welcome home, maybe next time, you can come from the front door.' 'dady, why you come from the window' ' because we don't have a chimney.' I really adore this distinguished American humor, especially in dangerous situations, which is quite rare in China.
That's my whole reaction to Gua Sha Treatment.
Dear Daddy,
亲爱的爸爸,
Thank you very much for your letter written to me. In your letter , you not only expressed your expectation to me , but also showed all your love to me . I was deeply moved . Thanks again ,Daddy .You said ," I hope you get bravery and perseverance, and can quickly grasp living skills like a lion ". Now I want to tell you that I will try my best to do everything well and live up to your expectations . Dear father , you are a great lion in my mind .
谢谢你给我写信。在信中,你不仅仅表达了你对我的期望,还展示了你对我所有的爱。我深深感动了。再次谢谢你,爸爸。你说,“我希望你能够变得勇敢和有耐心,并且能像狮子般快速的掌握生活技能。”现在我想说我会尽我最大的.努力把所有事情都做好来达到你的期望。亲爱的爸爸,你是我心中的狮子。
When I am absent mind , when I am depressed, you , my dear father is always there . Your advice and encouragement guide me through many difficulties . Thank you , Dad, for your help and understanding. I love you , Dad ,forever!
当我茫然、绝望时,是你,我亲爱的爸爸永远都在我身边。你的建议和勇气引导我克服许多的困难。谢谢你,爸爸,谢谢你的帮助和理解。我永远爱你,爸爸。
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