---- 重读《家长会》-"好孩子是陪伴出来的"有感
记得去年暑假,由于我热衷于炒股,整日里抱着电脑,盯着盘面,满脑子竟是一些k线图,疏忽了无人陪伴的儿子。
儿子因为无所事事,又缺失了正确的引导,开始沉迷网游。整个暑假每天匆匆完成暑假作业后,便和他酷爱网游的表哥一起开始“赛尔号”之战。他玩网游的兴趣自此而产生,我再也看不到那个曾经缠着我,让我一遍遍为他读书的孩子了。我看在眼里急在心头,于是家庭战争的硝烟开始弥漫。
为了纠正儿子的这个不良嗜好,寒假里我可是煞费了苦心,虽然完成了帮助儿子的四部曲,从缓和亲子关系入手,从帮助儿子身边的榜样侄子展开,带领儿子和侄子开展家庭读书活动收官等等,但是收效甚微,儿子偶尔还是很怀念他的“赛尔号”。
从儿子还躺在婴儿床时我就开始了为他读书,多年来培养的好习惯差点因暑假里我一时的疏忽而毁于一旦。真正让儿子重新感到读书的快乐,还是由我放下炒股,重返和儿子一起阅读以后。看来,“好孩子是陪伴出来的”确实是至理啊!
于是,找出4月份的《家长会》杂志,重新温习了“特别关注”---好孩子是陪伴出来的那一课,细细品味,受益匪浅。
家长陪伴助成长
“陪伴”是一个重要载体,能使家长有机会发现孩子的特征和天赋,抓住孩子的敏感期,成就孩子的一生。
英国伟大的数学家、物理学家麦克斯韦所以会在数学、物理两大领域取得成功,就与其幼年时父母在陪伴中及时发现他的天赋有关。
有一次,他的父母让麦克期韦对着插满金菊的花瓶绘画,意外地发现画的竟是几何图形,药瓶是梯形、菊药是圆形,叶子是三角形,显露了他在数学上的天赋,于是加以培养,一举成名。
如今的社会竞争日趋激烈,父母的工作压力逐渐增大,社交应酬逐渐增多,从而挤占了陪伴孩子的时间,甚至出现了很多的“留守儿童”。家长除了偶尔过问一下孩子的学习成绩以外,很多的时候是把孩子晾到一边,从而给了孩子一个爱上电脑甚至出入网吧的机会。
缺失父母的陪伴对孩子的成长是多么得不利啊!也许我们的身边就有很多个麦克期韦、达尔文,只是我们太忙,没有发现而已。
陪伴的质量更重要
很多孩子的`心愿是爸爸妈妈能多和他们说说话,而不是总问:“你今天的作业完成得怎么样?”“这次测试考了多少分?”
陪伴不仅仅是陪孩子学习,对孩子进行苦口婆心的劝导,也不仅仅是跟孩子呆在一块儿,更重要的是在陪伴孩子成长的过程中,放下长者的身份,平等地与孩子交流;最大可能地了解孩子的内心世界,有针对性地进行教育;捕捉孩子的闪光点,及时给予鼓励和赞赏;随时发现孩子的所想所需,让孩子享受到关爱,感受到快乐和满足。
陪伴孩子成长,在潜移默化中培养孩子良好的学习和生活习惯,其效果远远大于苦口婆心的说教。
家长可以陪孩子做什么
孩子三岁以前,陪伴孩子妈妈有着不可推卸的责任,不要认为孩子尚小还不需要教育而将养育孩子的重任全权交给父辈或者保姆,妈妈的陪伴是为了给孩子营造安全感。
妈妈可以每天为婴儿车里的孩子唱一支歌,颂一首诗,可以抱孩子走出家门,让孩子触摸大自然的万物,认识缤纷的世界。在妈妈的陪伴下,孩子不会因为缺失安全感而整天哭闹,或养成吃手指的坏习惯。
孩子上幼儿园后,父母可以陪孩子一起做游戏,让孩子充分感受家庭的温馨快乐,建立良好的亲子关系;可以睡前为孩子讲十分钟的小故事,让孩子在小故事中懂得大道理;可以在放学的路上和孩子聊天,让亲子间的相处变得更加和谐;可以约上朋友的家庭一起去博物馆,既能让孩子感受到收获知识的乐趣,也能让孩子因为有了玩伴儿而兴致大增;可以陪孩子逛书店,带孩子感受求知的气氛;可以让孩子参与家庭决策,让孩子成为独立思考、有主见的人;可以陪孩子一起写博,评博,提高孩子的交流和写作水平……
陪伴孩子,给孩子带来的不仅仅是乐趣,还有探索、知识和成长。依稀中我仿佛看到儿子即将离开妈妈的怀抱,展翅高飞,内心不禁有些酸楚。孩子的童年如此短暂,还有什么理由让自己在孩子成长的路上缺席呢?
Dear mom and dad:
You are good!
This is the first time I write to you, I want to write down the words of my heart.
You I had many of the night was up all night, you how many tears flow to me. I paid you for how much, I return you from, I also know, you must not think I return you anything, but I'll never forget you in mind, the old I will return to the best of your ability, when I grew up in the sun, but you will gradually ageing, worry about and sad that wrinkles climbed up you originally carefree face.
Mom and dad, in your care, I have spent a full of joy for ten years. You have been the best things to me. I have a beautiful bedroom, delicate study materials, the conditions of the outstanding school... I like the little princess "in fairy tale, as well as the growth of carefree. Mom and dad, I want to say to you, you is very kind to me.
For ten years, and you carefully nurtured me, so that I grow up happily day by day. And your own but don't know how much I flow for the sweat and the tears. Mom and dad, I'll never let you down, is you to me put a pair of wings, I'll use that for the most powerful wings and fly, to the vast ocean of knowledge.
For the father loves the mountains, big love speechless. Dad you in my memory is always strict.
I and you seem to be very few joked about. Occasionally you talking and laughing, but with total to feel very at odds after. You are always a mountain that composed speechless. But anyway, I know you did all that is good for me.
When I came to this strange world by accident, the heart also carries a afraid, with wen run is you with love I meet, your love is I came to this world have received the first gift. How many covered the morning mist, you surprise and incredibly staring at me that WenXiang such as roses of little face, in my mind I meditate on to the my blessings. Early morning sunshine through the window, hazy gently in your face evenly spread on a layer of holy golden.
Love is like the silent running water, exquisite moistens at every point. Blustery, sun rises fall, winter passed on, flowers blossom, thanks in your words, I know the world, start gradually thinking. You not only living I to raise me, but also teach me the person, the given me knowledge and tao is "who grass-inch heart, reported in the apartments". Daughter with a mind always touched, but only in small to care and considerate, academic work harder in return. Just as weak grass can only add three points for spring green, and repay the natural nourishing; Autumn leaves only to be born for mud, to repay the tree of raising.
I usually very like reading, you never against, but to buy me a lot of books. By now I can put full of books have a bookcase. You again afraid I read many of the eye sight, and broke in bed to buy a lamp that beautiful the lamp that shield an eye.
Mom, remember the paint of time? Can't stand practice to paint of bitter, you also can really hit me, forced me to go on. Have a period of time, the time to practice painting overload I almost collapse, drab repeatedly that I find very boring. Many times, I almost want to go to all the paper I ripped, but then I was able to hold back. Want to come now, drawing not only gave me to understanding of the love, and paint with the fingers of flexible and the development of the brain, the more developed my perseverance will and persistence. Mother, daughter really grateful to you!
Dad, perhaps you rarely like mother like that teach me what, but you can really affect me a lot. You never is so honest, kind, brave, strong, dedication, and can endure hardships and profound knowledge, you use your good quality affects me, always doing my model. Each time talking with you always make me benefit, always make me understand some of the life philosophy, always important to make my in confused when suddenly enlightened. Dad, daughter really grateful to you!
Mom and dad, you are in their industry elite, and daughter from urinate will you as a proud. You are all so devotion and perseverance, in their children's education is also a method. Mother, it is you that give me the most important a habit: a love of reading. Reading is to my self education is the best way I know to widely browse, many all aspects of the knowledge, people doing things will also be more mature. Mom and dad, daughter really appreciate you!!!!!
Love is the most beautiful in the world language, let us each other love each other forever to pass by stormy night, watch for the arrival of the most beautiful day.
Your daughter
Dear parents,
“You always say that I am naive. In your eyes, I am always the little girl who will never grow up”. This is my favorite song and also the sound from the bottom of my heart. You made me feel so lucky to be your child. But I find our hearts getting further apart as time goes by.
You strictly forbid me to do entertaining activities even if I finished my homework, such as watching TV or playing computer games. Based on this, I couldn’t get any grade less than A. It is said that genius only means hard-working all one’s life. But I think combining exertion is the best way for learning.
The most important thing to me was that I feel frustrated for having few friends to confide in due to your strict rules. I can’t have a play date, participate in a school play or even choose my own extracurricular activities. Who will accept such a boring and troublesome person? I am just an ordinary girl who can’t stand loneliness, so I always feel contradictory.
On the one hand, I’m grateful to have you in my life, to disappoint you was the least I would do. On the other hand, what you asked for me made me felt like a puppet rather than a real person. I appreciated your efforts to pull me away from a self-indulgent life, but your obsessively extravagant strictness has pushed me into an isolated and insensible one. I need a little freedom so that I will concentrate on something I really interested in.
Father and mother, these words were hid in my deep heart for a long time. I love you, and I believe if you change some harsh rules. I will have a wonderful life.
Best wishes.
Yours, daughter
Beloved father:
It’s a long time no contacting with you since last e-mail. And I miss you so much. Recently I luckily turn to the third officer working on board MV Blue Whale,which is a container ship. I intend to introduce you what Ido on this big vessel in this letter.
I am the third officer working in the deck department. As you know, the third officer is responsible to the master for the proper performance of his assigned bridge watchstanding and navigational duties.
On board, my first daily work is wathckeeping from 8 to 12 and from 20 to 24. my second daily work is in charge of the maintance of the fire-fighting equipment and life-saving equipment. The third , I am also responsible for fire and boat drills, I have to design a muster list and make crew to know the best escape route clearly. Additionally, there are also some simple things I have to do in daily work. For example, I have to assist the Chief Officer in supervising cargo handling operation 、to measure the draft at the discretion of the Chief Officer or the Master、to assist the Master on the bridge with anchoring and mooring and unmooring operation is underway and so on.
In the end, I strongly believed that you must be very familiar with my special work through what I said. And I hope you can stand my back and make me stronger. We will have a reunion soon.
Your ,ZJH
Dear mom:
A: hello!
Mom this is my first time to write to you, so some shame.
How are you recently? Have a smooth work! How your mood these days, I have no dont care you one day.
How much I miss you, do you give me the rice, how delicious, I often dream of in the evening I went to the kitchen to steal to eat the food you do.
Mom you sit down and rest for a while! Dont be so hard to cook for us after work every day, every day we wash clothes... Every time after the meal, I want to help you wash the dishes, you say you dont have to tube chores, you just mind your own learning. Himself out of one eye, I am full of tears.
Ah! Mother I love you.
I wish you the best
Healthy body, the work is smooth.
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