不要说:“我是为你好”
“天下的父母都会担心孩子被社会淘汰。”
家庭教育上最大的误区,莫过于“我是为你好”。
马飞被爸爸接出去走读后,马飞的妈妈得知马飞的成绩依然垫底时,气急败坏地找到父子俩,抱怨马皓文无厘头的赌约时,理直气壮地说“我都是为他好。”
“再也没有比‘我是为他好’更恐怖的借口了。那你也为自我好,怎样不天天对着镜子痛骂自我两小时?孩子什么都能够没有,但不能没有自尊心。”马皓文反驳道。
对于小马飞来说,他的生命中缺乏了父爱,本来应当有两倍的母爱来呵护,可是她却把他扔在了寄宿学校,选择了多挣钱“为他好”。
其实长大的我们中很多人都是听着“我是为你好”长大的,心里下意识地也会十分抵触这句话,也深深的能体会到这句话中带有的控制欲。
更现实的情景,倒更像《三傻大闹宝莱坞》。三个主角之一的法罕一出生,就被父亲指明了人生道路:
“我出生于午时5点15分。5点16分,我爸爸就宣布:我的儿子会是个工程师!我的命运之戳就此盖下,至于我究竟想做什么,从没人问过!”
在遵从父母的意愿学习工程时,他的成绩很差,心境也很低落。最终他还是为了自我喜欢的摄影,放手一搏,获得了梦想与欢乐。
家长们应当避免做“权威型父母”,不要执着于掌握亲子关系中的控制权,不要打着“为你好”的旗号,强行灌输给孩子自我的想法和态度。“为孩子好”的前提,应当是“明白孩子觉得什么好”,而不是“我觉得孩子这样最好”。
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.你爱吃梨吗? 我非常喜欢吃梨.让我们一起分享桃子和梨吧.好的
昨天晚上,我看了一部叫《银河补习班》的电影。它主要讲述了一个爸爸和儿子经历了重重困难与挫折,儿子终于成为了宇航员的故事。让我最感动的是两个情节。
1998年那场众有所知的大洪水,是这部电影中一段感人的情节。儿子因下车打水而上错了车,与爸爸走散了。下车后知道这场大雨是百年不遇的大雨,引起了一次大洪水。走着走着,只剩他一人了。他被困在了一间屋子里。爸爸一路打听,找到了儿子遇难的地方。他找到了一只喇叭,对下面大喊了几句,并说:“如果你能听到,看看周围有什么东西能派上用场……我相信你一定会出来的!”爸爸的喊声让他重拾了信心,觉得一定要出来。最后在爸爸就要绝望的时候,儿子终于出来了。因为他一直记着一句话:“只要你的脑袋一直想,一直想,就可以做世界上的任何事。”
第二段感人的情节是在最后。儿子最后成为了一名宇航员。但他乘坐的飞船“曙光十六号”遭遇了一场亿万分之一概率的“袭击”——宇宙碎片。它们把天线的接线打坏了,需要修理才能与地面取得联系。他不畏风险,主动出舱修理。他几次被安全绳甩来甩去,缠了飞船好几圈。最后他只距离天线只有一步之遥,但安全绳不够用了,于是他把安全绳卸了下来,冒着生命危险来修理。最后他终于用三个手指抓住了把手,修好了天线。
看完了这部电影,我得到了两个启示:
1、这部电影里爸爸总是提到一句话:“只要你的脑袋一直想,一直想,你就可以做这世上所有的事情。”我的理解是:脑袋要不停地思考。
2、电影里爸爸用了另一种方式教育儿子,也希望所有的家长与老师都要像爸爸一样对儿子多一点信任和鼓励,不能只看成绩。
作为教师,我们是否有勇气常常与自己对话,反思自己教学实践过程中的'不足并及时加以弥补呢?叶澜先生曾经说过:“一个教师写一辈子教案不一定成为名师,如果一个教师写三年反思可能成为名师。”
在备课及上课的过程中我们是不是可以常常问自己三个问题:“这节课应该怎么上?”——在分析教材,研透学情的基础上“知其然”;“这节课为什么要这样上?”——站在英语教学理论的高度分析教材教法,“知其所以然”方能掌握规律,举一反三;“这节课还可以怎么上?”——教学是一门遗憾的艺术,加强反思,及时提升。“知其未尽然”才能将遗憾变为自我发展的动力。
有位英语教学专家曾总结过小学英语课堂教学的主要特征:语言是有声的,所以课堂教学是听和说的体验:语言是有形的,所以课堂教学是读和写的体验;语言是有情的,所以课堂教学是情感交流的体验。我们在备课时亦可结合自己每一节课的教学设计自问:我们的课堂有声、有形、有情吗?我们的学生有思、有感、有收获吗?
在小学英语教学中,教师的语言、教师的教育理念、备课设计都对学生的兴趣、动机和认识水平产生直接的影响。教学要努力实现以学生为主体,给予学生选择的机会、创造的机会,发挥学生的自主性和能动性,首先就要从备课人手,通过备课过程中的“三对话”落实新课程理念,切实提高备课质量。
The biography of the famous is composed of the famous French writer romain rolland, the biography of Michelangelo and the biography of Tolstoy, all of which were created in the early twentieth century. These three are famous people all over the world, but they do not give in to their fate and fight against their fate.
The first was Beethoven, a German musician who was born poor and dropped out of school. His life was rough and he was brave to fight his fate. His only family had failed him, and he was badly hit, but he survived. The great musician wrote an immortal masterpiece after hearing the deaf. He conquered the disease and overcame the difficulty. Beethoven was successful because of his spirit, unwilling to yield to his fate, and his spiritual values.
The second was Michelangelo, an Italian composer. He was born to a richer family in Florence. He has a high culture and artistic foundation. He spent his life working for the church. And his family kept asking him for money, and Michelangelo never refused their demands. The Pope had erected a monument to himself, which made Michelangelo less than his ideal. He encountered many difficulties in his life. He insisted that he lived to be in his seventies for his own ideal. Only a man with dogged perseverance like Michelangelo will succeed.
The third is Leo Tolstoy, a Russian writer. Tolstoy was born with a silver spoon in his mouth. He has a happy family. He has a high literary talent. He had been successful before, but he didn't care about what he had. He would not enjoy life, he would not spend his life, he would like to reflect the value of his life through human beings. Tolstoy was one of those people who let us see the different sides of the writer, the kind of inner shock that made me feel a lot.
This book tells us to fight our fate bravely, as long as you don't give in to your destiny, one day you will change your fate. There is an old saying that "destiny is in your hands".
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