指责、批评、评论其实暗含着我们对他人期待。其实是在间接的表达我们尚未满足的需求。如果通过指责的方式表达,对方常常会申辩或反击。所以最好的方法是直接说出我们的需求。
最后总结一下,非暴力沟通教给我们用“我观察到……我感觉……是因为……我请求”的方法既表达了自己又帮助他人,更不会用言语伤害别人。所以下一次沟通请记住:讲事实、讲感受、说原因、提请求。
和家人一起听音乐的时候,范围会很广。我总以为是生活的厚度不同,所以每个人对音乐的涉猎也会不同。所以全家人在一起的时候,综合性的音乐会是个不错的选择,比如《同一首歌》。爸爸可以找到刘欢,妈妈可以找到孙悦,而我,可以找到很多。这就跟晚餐一样,不一定所有的菜都是你爱吃的,而你总能找到自己爱吃的。更妙的是,原本你不爱的'菜也许某一天会得到你的首肯而进入到你的碗里,营养就均衡了。
和朋友在一起听音乐,范围就小了。因为大家的爱好都差不多,否则是不会聚到一块儿的。这一顿,可能是汉堡可乐,可能是鱼片寿司,可能是麻婆豆腐,也可能只是一些干面包,但这些都是宝贵的共同语言,朋以类聚嘛。可能两个人毫不认识,但对音乐同样的感知,就如细腻而坚韧的蛛丝,从而维系了两人的友情。这种音乐与人心的微妙关系真让人称奇。那么把了解自己的人称为“知音”大抵就是这个缘故了。
一个人的时候还能一起听音乐吗?如果你能了解李白的“对影成三人”,那么对这此也就有了答案了。自己的影子,永远真诚的追随着自己,他和你没有矛盾,也没有分歧,世上再也找不出如此支持自己的了。那么就点一支檀香,用指间轻轻拨开琴弦,“对影二人”吧。总觉得,古筝的音是沉沉的,大概是拖了弹时的心情吧。岁月可以掩了千年的风雪,却掩不了千年的明月,和伴着明月的隐隐愁思。姬昌曾作《广陵散》,被视为最美的曲子,但终究还是销了音迹,无处可寻了,我的影子,你说对吗?影子轻轻的应着。和影子做伴的时候,只爱听一种音乐。这种音乐是纯白色的,旋律缓缓的重复着,自己就好象灵魂出壳般,在流动的声音中徜徉。你仿佛能看见自己呆傻的模样,笨笨的做着这落落人世中小得可怜的一员。其实人并不拥有孤落感,因为还有影子。当你和世界隔着长长的篱笆的时候,就和影子一起听音乐吧。影子永远懂得,这音乐对于自己的意义。
音乐于耳,就如同美食于口,美景于眼。孟子说:“凡音之起,由人心生也。”每一种音乐,便是一种心情,是一片人的内心的风景,一起听音乐,一起享受那种心情,一起欣赏那片风景。
Nowadays, we can see some boys and girls who live in a small world of their own. They bury themselves among books and are proud of themselves. They think that it will make them lose their face if they do housework for they often think themselves very noble.
These young people are wrong. In my opinion every student should have a knowledge of housework. After all, they will have a family of their own, and they should do their part in keeping a good home. Boys should also learn to do housework, for what will they do if they remain single? Though not all boys remain single, yet they will be very helpful in the family if they know some housework. Anyhow they will not lose anything, but, on the contrary, they will gain something useful.
For what I said above, we can find some examples of our fellow-students studying abroad. All young men do housework as girls do. Someone would argue that we can employ servants. This is true. However, what shall we do if the servant leaves us and all things are left to ourselves? We just cannot leave our clothes as they are and let worms and ants eat them up. And what can we do it we go and study in a foreign country where servants are out our means to employ?
We must work for ourselves. Why not start to learn to do housework now or else it will be too late?Everyone should learn to do housework. What do you think about my idea, boys and girls?
Every family has lots of housework。 Everyone should learn to do some of it。 I often help my parents do housework such as washing clothes, cleaning the room and watering flowers。 I think I‘ve learned how to take good care of myself and my family by doing housework。 Sometimes cleaning all the windows is an enjoyable experience。 I really felt proud of myself。 And doing housework is also a kind of exercise。 The summer holiday is coming。 I'm going to learn how to cook some dishes。 My parents will be happy to enjoy them。
Every family has lots of housework. Everyone should learn to do some of it. I often help my parents do housework such as washing clothes, cleaning the room and watering flowers. I think I‘ve learned how to take good care of myself and my family by doing housework. Sometimes cleaning all the windows is an enjoyable experience. I really felt proud of myself. And doing housework is also a kind of exercise. The summer holiday is coming. Im going to learn how to cook some dishes. My parents will be happy to enjoy them.
每个家庭都有很多的家务事,每个人都应该学会去做一些。我经常帮助我的父母做家务,如洗衣服,打扫房间和浇花。我想从做家务中我学会了如何照顾自己和我的家人。有的时候擦玻璃是一种享受,我为自己感到骄傲。做家务也是一种锻炼。暑假即将到来,我准备去学习一些料理,我的父母会很高兴的享用它们。
Every family has lots of housework. Everyone should learn to do some of it. I often help my parents do housework such as washing clothes, cleaning the room and watering flowers. I think I‘ve learned how to take good care of myself and my family by doing housework.
Sometimes cleaning all the windows is an enjoyable experience. I really felt proud of myself. And doing housework is also a kind of exercise.
The summer holiday is coming. Im going to learn how to cook some dishes. My parents will be happy to enjoy them.
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