所有的孩子小的时候都喜欢围着成人不停的问为什么,但他们获得的答案不同,孩子的思维方式也发生了巨大的差异,孩子是父母的老师。
有些孩子,在自己的询问声中极大地满足了自己的好奇心,新的问题也层出不穷地在他们的视野中出现、在思想里蓬勃地生长壮大,于是这些孩子的思维变得越来越活跃,知识面在不停地拓宽。
有些孩子,在自己的询问声中接收到了冷漠、嘲笑和呵斥,或者是漫不经心的伪答案,于是孩子越来越漠视眼睛里看到的新鲜事物,思维里活跃的细胞在懒惰、在蜕变,孩子的心灵里没有了疑问,脑海里死一般寂静,孩子对周围世界的感知能力越来越差。
成人习惯于以孩子们的老师自居,却不曾自省自己是不是个合格的老师,在孩子的眼睛里世间的一切都是那么新奇,在他们希望探索的世界里我们作为家长的成人又能给予多大的帮助呢?
一个2岁的`孩子问:为什么有白天和黑天呀?
第一位家长回答:白痴,这还用问?孩子从此沉默了。——这位家长不知道他自己才是真正的白痴!
第二位家长回答:天亮了就是白天,天黑了就是黑天。——孩子在家长的回答中明白了自己要做的就是,正视和记住看到的一切即可。
第三位家长听了孩子的问题,好生为难,斟酌再三,找来手电筒和一个玩具皮球,告诉孩子这个皮球就好象我们脚下的地球,手电筒发出的光就好象太阳的光线,于是家长花费了很长的时间与这个孩子模拟地球自转的情景。让孩子通过自己的实验观察,了解到太阳光照到地球的那一半明亮的区域就是白昼,而背向太阳光的另一半黑暗的区域就进入了黑夜,在观察中孩子注意到了早晨、中午、和傍晚的形成过程。随后的日子里这样的游戏经常成为孩子和家长的闲暇娱乐节目,家长还不失时机地找来孩子的大、中、小三个篮球和玩具皮球,给孩子演示日、地、月的运行关系,及时地带领孩子观测月亮的阴晴圆缺和日食、月食现象。
虽然孩子还小,有些问题还不能真正地领会,但孩子在游戏中愉悦了身心,在家长的回答中明白了要想了解现象背后的道理可以通过实验去探索,家长之友《孩子是父母的老师》。而家长在回答孩子的问题的过程中更深刻地读懂了自己的孩子——家长和孩子在和谐的氛围同成长。
生活中这样的例子不乏其数,而每一位家长的答案也各不相同,家长不是百科全书,但孩子是,每一个孩子都是一本厚厚的百科全书,只是在孩子这本百科全书里有很多问题是没有现成答案的。
我曾奇怪为什么在孩子的眼睛里有那么多问题?成人熟视无睹的事情在孩子的眼睛里是需要思辩和答案的,而我们成年人却不以为然。
一位同事的孩子四岁的时候,观察妈妈买来的一条鲫鱼,突然问:妈妈,鱼身上长鳞有什么用处?这个问题难住了受过良好高等教育的父母,他们查遍家里能查的书籍仍不得其解。
第二天同事来到单位向大家求教,可是知识分子云集的单位里,同事们讨论再三谁也不知道正确的答案,就连两个在大学里学生物的同事也是面对这个简单的问题不得要领。晚上我回到家里查阅了几套百科全书和十万个为什么,仍然没有找到答案,费了一个晚上的时间终于在一本“小学生百事问”中找到了答案,当我把答案告诉同事时,大家恍然悟出一个道理——其实孩子也是咱们父母的好老师呀!
前段时间上小学二年级的儿子参观了一个蝴蝶展览后,回来向我描述了许多关于蝴蝶的知识,为了能和儿子有共同话题我上网查阅了相关的网站,又跟儿子再次去自然博物馆参观了一次,自己感觉真是很长见识,儿子就象一个老师一样引导我丰富自己的知识。
前几天,儿子阅读安徒生童话集时问我:耶酥为什么被钉在十字架上?我支吾半天不能详尽,上网发帖子、找知识渊博的网友征答、在同事中求助,但大家都只是略知一二。最后我在基督教的网站查阅了圣经,又和儿子翻阅了百科全书,才找到了儿子满意的答案。
我常常在想,为什么我们成人面对这些以为显而易见的知识会熟视无睹,不闻不问?可是在孩子的世界里这些都是生趣盎然的、富于吸引力的问题,他们不断的在探求,于是孩子的思想就不断地成长、升华,他那本本来没有现成答案的百科全书渐渐丰满增厚,而我们在孩子的询问声中也慢慢地成长,慢慢地积淀着自己的知识底蕴,面对这样的现实你能不说孩子也是父母的老师吗?
Dear mom and dad:
You are good!
This is the first time I write to you, I want to write down the words of my heart.
You I had many of the night was up all night, you how many tears flow to me. I paid you for how much, I return you from, I also know, you must not think I return you anything, but I'll never forget you in mind, the old I will return to the best of your ability, when I grew up in the sun, but you will gradually ageing, worry about and sad that wrinkles climbed up you originally carefree face.
Mom and dad, in your care, I have spent a full of joy for ten years. You have been the best things to me. I have a beautiful bedroom, delicate study materials, the conditions of the outstanding school... I like the little princess "in fairy tale, as well as the growth of carefree. Mom and dad, I want to say to you, you is very kind to me.
For ten years, and you carefully nurtured me, so that I grow up happily day by day. And your own but don't know how much I flow for the sweat and the tears. Mom and dad, I'll never let you down, is you to me put a pair of wings, I'll use that for the most powerful wings and fly, to the vast ocean of knowledge.
For the father loves the mountains, big love speechless. Dad you in my memory is always strict.
I and you seem to be very few joked about. Occasionally you talking and laughing, but with total to feel very at odds after. You are always a mountain that composed speechless. But anyway, I know you did all that is good for me.
When I came to this strange world by accident, the heart also carries a afraid, with wen run is you with love I meet, your love is I came to this world have received the first gift. How many covered the morning mist, you surprise and incredibly staring at me that WenXiang such as roses of little face, in my mind I meditate on to the my blessings. Early morning sunshine through the window, hazy gently in your face evenly spread on a layer of holy golden.
Love is like the silent running water, exquisite moistens at every point. Blustery, sun rises fall, winter passed on, flowers blossom, thanks in your words, I know the world, start gradually thinking. You not only living I to raise me, but also teach me the person, the given me knowledge and tao is "who grass-inch heart, reported in the apartments". Daughter with a mind always touched, but only in small to care and considerate, academic work harder in return. Just as weak grass can only add three points for spring green, and repay the natural nourishing; Autumn leaves only to be born for mud, to repay the tree of raising.
I usually very like reading, you never against, but to buy me a lot of books. By now I can put full of books have a bookcase. You again afraid I read many of the eye sight, and broke in bed to buy a lamp that beautiful the lamp that shield an eye.
Mom, remember the paint of time? Can't stand practice to paint of bitter, you also can really hit me, forced me to go on. Have a period of time, the time to practice painting overload I almost collapse, drab repeatedly that I find very boring. Many times, I almost want to go to all the paper I ripped, but then I was able to hold back. Want to come now, drawing not only gave me to understanding of the love, and paint with the fingers of flexible and the development of the brain, the more developed my perseverance will and persistence. Mother, daughter really grateful to you!
Dad, perhaps you rarely like mother like that teach me what, but you can really affect me a lot. You never is so honest, kind, brave, strong, dedication, and can endure hardships and profound knowledge, you use your good quality affects me, always doing my model. Each time talking with you always make me benefit, always make me understand some of the life philosophy, always important to make my in confused when suddenly enlightened. Dad, daughter really grateful to you!
Mom and dad, you are in their industry elite, and daughter from urinate will you as a proud. You are all so devotion and perseverance, in their children's education is also a method. Mother, it is you that give me the most important a habit: a love of reading. Reading is to my self education is the best way I know to widely browse, many all aspects of the knowledge, people doing things will also be more mature. Mom and dad, daughter really appreciate you!!!!!
Love is the most beautiful in the world language, let us each other love each other forever to pass by stormy night, watch for the arrival of the most beautiful day.
Your daughter
虽然爷爷奶奶难免出现对孩子过于溺爱、管教不严等问题,但是爷爷奶奶教育孩子也具备不少优势。现在一般的家庭在孩子出生后,家里的老人也差不多到了该退休的年龄,退休以后相对上班的时候老人的时间多了很多,在孩子年纪小自觉性不强的时候,老人可以专门拿出时间来监督孩子做功课、看书复习,按照合理的膳食标准给孩子搭配饮食。同时,家长是孩子的榜样、是第一个老师,孩子的身心发展是受家庭影响的。但是孩子的父母却没有精力来和孩子进行有效地沟通,听取孩子的想法,甚至很多是一天见不到孩子几面,更谈不上对孩子有什么启蒙了。因此,每天陪伴在身旁的爷爷奶奶便成了孩子模仿的榜样,爷爷奶奶的正确言行和教导,往往能够影响孩子一生的发展。
当今社会是一个竞争相当激烈的社会,时间就那么多,如果亲自陪着孩子学习、教知识的话,就没有时间用在工作上,时间长了将面临被竞争淘汰的状况,因此处于这个年纪的父母,往往为了养家糊口,或者为了获得更高的社会地位,赚取更多的钱等原因,很难抽出时间来关心孩子的学习、生活等教育问题。于是,教育孩子的重担自然地落在了爷爷、奶奶的身上。
“老人带出来的孩子都不好,脾气太娇惯了”。这是很多家长都在谈论的一个话题。
其实亨德森·杨认为不然,有很多老人在年轻时都是接受过很好教育的,对于孙辈的教育是不会盲目地过分宠爱的。老人之所以会比当初教育自己孩子时还要尽心尽力,一方面是存在一种补偿心理,觉得自己年轻时和现在自己的孩子一样忙于工作,拿不出足够的时间来教育自己的'子女,因此现在把当时没有为孩子付出的时间花在了孙辈的身上。另一方面,也存在一部分孩子的家长受教育程度不高无法指导和监督孩子学习,而爷爷奶奶却受过该方面的教育,因此教育孩子的重担自然而然地就落在了老人的身上。
Dear parents:
You are good! Thank you for you when I was growing up, to my care and meticulous care, what I have to ask you can satisfy me. Its always hot in summer, I kick a quilt, every time you gently help me cover the quilt, winter will give me a cup of hot milk before you go to sleep at night.
But your weight to all have no standing in my point of view, only think about how I. Now I have grown up, is not a two year old the child, I want your decision and judgment. Please dont pressure me again, had a lot of pressure on learning, you can put the gas pressure can reduce the?
Although you do not perfect, but what are the parents in the world perfect? Youll always be my favorite people. Is you give me life, let me come to this beautiful world and everywhere is full of love. I must study hard, to repay you.
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