不要说:“我是为你好”
“天下的父母都会担心孩子被社会淘汰。”
家庭教育上最大的误区,莫过于“我是为你好”。
马飞被爸爸接出去走读后,马飞的妈妈得知马飞的成绩依然垫底时,气急败坏地找到父子俩,抱怨马皓文无厘头的赌约时,理直气壮地说“我都是为他好。”
“再也没有比‘我是为他好’更恐怖的借口了。那你也为自我好,怎样不天天对着镜子痛骂自我两小时?孩子什么都能够没有,但不能没有自尊心。”马皓文反驳道。
对于小马飞来说,他的生命中缺乏了父爱,本来应当有两倍的母爱来呵护,可是她却把他扔在了寄宿学校,选择了多挣钱“为他好”。
其实长大的我们中很多人都是听着“我是为你好”长大的,心里下意识地也会十分抵触这句话,也深深的能体会到这句话中带有的控制欲。
更现实的情景,倒更像《三傻大闹宝莱坞》。三个主角之一的法罕一出生,就被父亲指明了人生道路:
“我出生于午时5点15分。5点16分,我爸爸就宣布:我的儿子会是个工程师!我的命运之戳就此盖下,至于我究竟想做什么,从没人问过!”
在遵从父母的意愿学习工程时,他的成绩很差,心境也很低落。最终他还是为了自我喜欢的摄影,放手一搏,获得了梦想与欢乐。
家长们应当避免做“权威型父母”,不要执着于掌握亲子关系中的控制权,不要打着“为你好”的旗号,强行灌输给孩子自我的想法和态度。“为孩子好”的前提,应当是“明白孩子觉得什么好”,而不是“我觉得孩子这样最好”。
"Open the window! Let the free air come back! Let's breath the breath of heroes." This is a line from romain rolland's book, "celebrity biography". Perhaps this is his interpretation of all his work.
The author of "celebrity biography" is French thinker and writer, romain rolland. "Celebrity biography is about Beethoven, Michelangelo and Tolstoy in grief stuck on the journey of life, to seek the truth and justice, for can show the true, the good and the beautiful immortal masterpieces, laid down their lives. They may be tortured by sickness, or by the misery of their sufferings, or by the confusion of their hearts, or the three of them, which are all overlapping in one body, with deep anguish, almost suffocating their breath, and destroying reason. But with strong will, they walked through the glorious and arduous life.
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Many places in "celebrity biography" are amazing, but my most memorable one is Beethoven's saying, "man, depend on yourself!" This sentence seems to be the advice to every living thing, if not to be self-reliant, then to ask for trouble. These three great men, on their own, forged a glorious life.
Beethoven came from a poor family, dropped out of school at thirteen, started the whole family at the age of seventeen, and when he was twenty-five years old, he had just emerged from the music scene and was deaf again. The pain of this very deadly disease to the musician, who could have imagined who could think of his immortal masterpiece, was written in the vast majority of his deafness. He had always been unlucky in life, and his love life was full of desolation and regret, due to poverty and disability.
Meters open the ROM and Tolstoy luckier than Beethoven, they don't have any physical disability, but they refuse to enjoying life, will not live in vain, for the own goal, fighting.
What kind of victory could be compared to their achievements that the glory of the sun that was the day of the Napoleonic wars was never won by spiritual power. They forged themselves with difficulty. As Beethoven summed up his life in one sentence, this sentence has become the motto of the brave man: "for its pain, there is joy."
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