在正文下面的一、二行处,从信纸的中间偏右处开始,第一个词开头要大写,句末用逗号。不同的对象,结束语的写法也不同。
(1写给家人、亲戚,用your loving grandfather,lovingly yours,lovingly等;
(2写给熟人、朋友,用yours cordially,yours affectionately等;
(3写业务信函用truely yours(yours truely,faithfully yours(yours faithfully等;
(4对上级、长辈用yours obediently(obediently yours,yours respectfully(respectfully yours等。
“优秀”的小孩退步2分,亲吻变成了巴掌。“落后”的小孩进步6分,巴掌变成了亲吻。这幅漫画述说着这样一个当今教育的事实:真正的.教育在简单的肢体语言中迷失。
教育,尤其是家庭教育,对孩子的成长至关重要。我们可以想到,或许对那个考98分的孩子来说,这次卷子更难一些,他需要的恰恰是鼓励;而那个考61分的孩子因为马虎,本可以考得更好,他需要的反而是鞭策。而一个吻或是一个巴掌,全然抹***了闪光点,无视了背后的问题。
其次,只见树木不见森林,实则埋下了更大的隐患。龙应台在《跌倒——寄k》中写道:“我们拼命学习一百米冲刺,但没有人教过我们:你跌倒时怎么跌得有尊严;膝盖血肉模糊时怎么包扎伤口;痛得无法忍受时怎样面对别人;心像玻璃一样碎了一地时,怎么收拾?”同样,林森浩的悲剧,无疑是在“唯分数论”下,对孩子素质教育,健全人格培养,成熟心态锤炼等综合素质的缺失的警钟长鸣。
真正的教育,可以是涓涓细流,润物无声,给孩子以耐心与理解。阿尔·爱迪生小时候成绩奇差,被校长以“低能儿”撵出校门,母亲轻描淡写地说:“校长说你是低能儿,我不以为然。”正是母亲的耐心教育,使得爱迪生最终成为“发明大王”。
真正的教育,可以是暗夜灯塔,给孩子以鼓励和支持。股神沃伦·巴菲特之子彼得·巴菲特,想中断学业追求自己的音乐人梦想。当他忐忑不安地与父亲商量时,父亲微笑地说:“别担心,你的哥哥姐姐不也没有完成学业吗?他们(媒体)顶多会说你步入了他们的后尘。”“爸爸把我的音乐放在与他的事业同等重要的位置,他说做我热爱的就好。”已是著名的音乐家兼慈善家的彼得这样回忆道。
我希望,更多的“虎妈”“狼爸”成为智慧的,善解人意的父母;我希望,孩子的脸上不再是唇吻和掌印,而是阳光的,自信的,充满朝气的笑容!
如果一封信写完了,突然又想起遗漏的事情,这时用p.s.表示,再写上遗漏的话即可,要长话短说。通常在信末签名下面几行的左方,应于正文齐头。
注意:在正式的信函中,应避免使用附言。
瞥见分数,几家欢喜几家愁。由100分退为98分的孩子,经历亲吻到耳光的奖惩;由55分进步为61分的孩子,感受的则是耳光到亲吻的悲喜。这幅场景,使人会心一笑之余,不由得深思:正常的成绩波动,何以如此强烈地牵动爸妈的情绪?
究其奖惩差别的原因,不过是退步的“好孩子”没有取得满分,而“差孩子”完成了由不及格到及格的飞越。简言之,退步意味着惩罚,进步会换来奖励,对宏观视角下孩子所表现出的稳定水准,爸妈们似乎并未予以考虑。然而,一切教育都是从我们对儿童天性的理解开始,家庭教育在孩童启蒙中的地位尤其无可撼动。如此简单干脆的处理,影响的,岂止孩子稚嫩的脸颊?
今昔求索,这样的案件比比皆是。聚焦新闻,被誉为“东方神童”的魏永康,其母得知他被中科院劝退的消息时,歇斯底里着让他“去死”,却忽略毫无自理能力儿子的内心隐痛;放眼四海,一场考试完结后,多少“进步了重重有奖”的诺言正等待兑现?忽忆起马克·兰博教授的“过度理由效应”:金钱等物质奖励的外在动机,会削弱对活动本身的享受和对满足感的关心。
再将目光转回那两名为成绩左右的孩童,虽不可危言耸听断言他们的未来将拘泥于“蜗角虚名,蝇头微利,算来着甚干忙”的世俗,但在下一场测验中,恐怕除了试题,他们也会投注几分心思在对“糖果”的期待和对“棍棒”的惶恐上。由此推之,岂独两小儿哉?是否千千万万稚子,都不能意识到考试本身“查漏补缺”的效用,而是专注于脑海中爸妈时嗔时悦的脸色,紧张于罅漏中的奖惩?一声长叹。
无论如何,看见孩子无邪天真的笑颜是所有人的心愿,“让孩子拥有快乐童年”的号召亦是无可非议。静言思之,这并非不切实际的虚幻畅想,而是触手可为的动人之举。当面对孩子成绩的55到61,或100至98时,应以“流水不腐,户枢不蠹”的旷达淡然置之。“童子者,人之初也;童心者,心之初也。”李贽绝假纯真的《童心说》中坦率表露了对孩童的欣羡和维护赤子之心的呐喊。而作为家庭教育的施予方,爸妈们可否宠辱不惊,以良好的心态处理望子成才与循序渐进的理性平衡?衷心希望,进步也好,退步也罢,都能看到孩子脸上如花的明艳!
yesterday i read a book the name of the book is《dr bethune》.
dr bethune was a famous doctor from canada. in 1938 he came to china. at that time china was at war with japan. he worked as a doctor in the chinese army and saved many soldiers’ lives. he worked very hard and became sick. dr bethune died in 1939. he was only 49 years old. he was a good man and we remember him today.
i think the book is very very good!
written by wu qingxiang
mar. 31
how to do research
——reading after a science paper
these days i am busy preparing my dissertation which is about web usage mining . i read some english papers and learnt much from them . and now i want to say something about a paper titled “web usage mining:discovery and applications of usage patterns from web data”.
this is the first english paper i read about dissertation and gave me great help .
this paper is a review about web usage mining. it introduced web usage mining in detail . although it is a little old for it was published in its contents are very useful today . it is organized according to the sequence of web usage mining and the six main parts are introduction which tells me what is web usage mining the sources and abstraction of web data the three steps of web usage mining taxonomy and project survey websift overview privacy issues . the third and fourth parts are most important . it had a list of existing project about web usage mining which i saw many times in other papers but this paper is the one creating this list . besides it has been referred for more then twenty times . as we all know that the higher the referred number is the more important the paper is so i consider this paper to be an important and successful one in this region.
in my opinion the success of this paper dues to three reasons . the first reason is the profound computer knowledge owned by the authors . web usage mining relates to many subjects such as artificial intelligence ontology semantic analysis but the most basic knowledge is computer science . the four authors are all professors of department of computer science and engineering in university of minnesota . for myself i am not major in computer science and i am not very good at computers so i feel a little difficult to understand technologies used in this region.
second they had read a large number of papers before they wrote this paper . there are fifty nine references listed after main contents . “stand on the shoulders of giants” this sentence tell us a truth : one can never successful all by oneself . and what’s more learn from others can save a lot of time and energy especially for us new learner . how to learn from others is a skill all of us should master but learning doesn’t mean copy or plagiary . other people’s knowledge and production is just our foundation upon this foundation we must have our own thoughts and creation. there are many remarks in this paper where referred other’s production.
third the authors had the experience of developing a web usage mining project . they don’t just engage in idle theorizing so their comprehension on this issue is greatly profound. they know what we may meet in a real project development and they know how to resolve them . after reading this paper i also read some other papers written in chinese . some of them are not based on real project and can not give useful resolution . websift is the name of system they developed which can be used to data mining and analysis .
i wrote this article not only because it gave me much help in preparing my dissertation but also because it tells me how to study and how to do research . honesty and preciseness are two essential making a researcher must have . hard-working is the necessary condition leading to success . this is just the beginning of my dissertation i should learn from these four authors both their knowledge and their attitude to study.
是写信人对收信人的称呼用语。位置在信内地址下方一、二行的地方,从该行的顶格写起,在称呼后面一般用逗号(英国式,也可以用冒号(美国式。
(1写给亲人、亲戚和关系密切的朋友时,用dear或my dear再加上表示亲属关系的称呼或直称其名(这里指名字,不是姓氏。例如:my dear father,dear tom等。
(2写给公务上的信函用dear madam,dear sir或gentleman(gentlemen。注意:dear纯属公务上往来的客气形式。gentlemen总是以复数形式出现,前不加dear,是dear sir的复数形式。
(3写给收信人的信,也可用头衔、职位、职称、学位等再加姓氏或姓氏和名字。例如:dear prof. tim scales, dear dr.john smith。
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