前段时间闹得轰轰烈烈的“虎妈”、“鹰爸”事件想必仍记忆犹新。他们培养出的孩子各个品学兼优,才华横溢,教育方式引来一批人追捧。但冷静思考之,才发现这不过是教育的“懒政”。
父母望子成龙、望女成凤无可厚非,但虎妈鹰爸们却把孩子们当成了他们达到某种目标的工具;制定各种高强度的学习方案,规定凌晨5点起床、晚上12点才睡觉的严苛作息,成绩必须得到全优……但试问,这些孩子了一摞高过自己的证书,他们的童年还剩什么呢?
漫画向我们展示了两种完全不同的教育方式:一种是分分必争纯粹以分数至上为目标,另一种却是注重于孩子的点滴进步。我为后者击节叫好!
父母是孩子的启蒙老师,他们的一言一行无不潜移默化地影响孩子的成长。故父母要担当起人生导师的责任,在孩子的人生各方面为他们点亮明灯。而不是为了成为别人眼中羡慕的成绩优异生,成为自己口中骄傲的谈资。这种父母无疑是自私的,无疑是最懒怠、最没有用心关注孩子成长的。
千年的儒家文化为何能生生不息,历久弥新,屹立于世界文化之林?我想那便是孔老夫子的那一句“因材施教”化为春风沐阳,化为每个人心田里的一丝希望。孔子弟子三千,情形各异的人不胜枚举,但他却能以谆谆教诲培育出无数优秀的后辈。反观某些家长,抱怨自己孩子难管,将孩子的失误责任推向学校、老师,不免过于失职。三千弟子都能成长有素,何况一个孩子呢?
再者,教育绝不能粗暴行事。以理服人,以情动人,才是教育应有的生态。家长要学会具体问题具体分析,拒绝往规则、制度里框住孩子,要灵活变通,根据孩子的个性特点采取适当的教育方式,讲求“精准教育”,也不要在语言上抱怨责备孩子,恶语伤人三分寒,暖语人间四月天。多给予他们鼓励、支持,不但要善于做一个“批判者”,也要善于做一个“建设者”。
成长的塑造不单是由学识堆砌而成的。无知肤浅如“北大炫证女”,凭自己聪慧头脑与努力在大学内考过了大大小小各式各样的证件,但目的却是将证件铺在床上显示自己很有本事的照片,来哗众取宠,夺人眼球。你能说这是教育的成功范例吗?过多的“功利主义”“实用主义”已使他们迷失方向,让原本纯洁的心染上了“利欲色彩”。所以,父母更多的应该让孩子学会树立正确的人生观。因为那些公序良俗远比冷冰冰的知识重要。
莫让孩子成为机器,让他们成为一个有血有肉深入社会的人。莫让“懒政”使孩子走向深渊!
Wolf, meeting with a Lamb astray from the fold, resolved not to lay violent hands on him, but to find some plea, which should justify to the Lamb himself his right to eat him. He thus addressed him:"Sirrah, last year you grossly insulted me." "Indeed," bleated the Lamb in a mournful tone of voice, "I was not then born." Then said the Wolf, "You feed in my pasture."
"No, good sir," replied the Lamb, "I have not yet tasted grass." Again said the Wolf, "You drink of my well." "No," exclaimed the Lamb, "I never yet drank water, for as yet my mother′s milk is both food and drink to me." On which the Wolf seized him, and ate him up, saying, "Well! I won′t remain supperless, even though you refute every one of my imputations."The tyrant will always find a pretext for his tyranny.
狼和小羊
一只狼瞧见一只迷路失群的小羊,决定暂缓下毒手,想先找一些理由,对小羊证明自己有吃它的权利。它就说:「小鬼!你去年曾经骂过我。」小羊可怜地说:「老实说,我去年还没有出生呢。」狼再说:「你在我的草地上吃过草。」
小羊回答说:「不,好先生,我还未曾尝过草的味道呢。」狼又说:「你喝过我井里的.水。」小羊叫道:「不,我从没有喝过水,因为直到今天为止,我都是吃着母亲的奶汁。」狼一听这话,便抓住它,把它吃下去,便说:「好!即使你驳倒我每一句话,我终究要吃晚餐的!」暴君总有他暴行的借口。
My uncle has two dogs. One is big and the other is small. He likes them very much.
One day, Mr. Smith came to visit him. When the friend saw two holes in the door, a large hole and a small hole, he was surprised and said, ;My dear friend, why are there two holes in your door?; ;Let my dogs come in and come out, of course,; Mr. Smith asked. ;But why are there two holes? One is enough!; ;But how can the big dog go through the small hole?; my uncle said.
Sometimes a clever man may make such mistakes.
我的叔叔有两条狗。一只是大的,另一只是小狗的.。他很喜欢它们。
有一天,史密斯先生来看他。当这个朋友看见门口上有连个洞,一个是大洞和一个小洞时,他感到吃惊并说,;我亲爱的朋友,为什么你的门上有连个洞?;我的叔叔回答说:;当然是让我的两条狗进出了。 史密斯先生问到:"为什么门上要两个洞呢?一个就足够了。"我叔叔说:;大狗怎能走小洞呢?;
Fox is with the grape
Hungry of the fox see the grape to up hang the radiant and extremely keen grape of a string, saliva direct current, and want to pick to eat, but again
Can not take off.See in a short while, helplessly walked, and his side walk the side oneself to comfort to by oneself say:" this grape have noes familiar, affirmative
Is sour."
This is to say, and the some person's ability is small, and do to not accomplish anything, borrow to say the opportune moment immaturity.
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Wolf and egret
The wolf mistake swallowed a piece of bone, very suffered, running about, look for to visit the doctor everywhere.He met the egret, and talk to settle the service fees to invite him to take out the bone, egret to stretch in the wolf's throat the own head, and the 叼 outs bone, then toward to settle the good service fees wolfThe wolf answer says:" hello, friend, you can since the wolf 嘴 take back the head in the peace ground, and the difficult way return the dissatisfied foot, and how and still speak the guerdon?"
This story elucidation, guerdon badly person act charitably, and is a bad person of cognition and does not speak the reputation's innate character.
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Little boy and scorpion son
There is a child in front of city wall to catch the grasshopper, and in a short while caught the lots of.Suddenly see a scorpion son, he to think is also grasshopper,
Then two go to catch him.The scorpion son raises his poison to stab, say:" come, if you really dare to do like this, connect your grasshopper that catch to also would entirely lose."
This story warns people, and want to distinguish the pure good man with the bad person, and distinct to treat them.
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Drop at the fox in the well with the 公 goat
An only the fox take a wrong stepped the well, in spite of how he struggle can not still climb up, and have to be foolish there.The 公 goat feels
Thirsty pole, arrive at this well the side, and see the fox under the well, and then ask him the well water the how about it to drink?The fox feels the opportunity to come, heart inside
The 暗 pleaseds, right away the town quiet down, make every effort the laudation well water good drink, say this water is a world the first spring, pure and sweet and good to eat, and advise the goat to hurry up
Come down, and drink to heart's content with him.A the heart think only of to drink the water letter to think the true goat, then the without stopping to think ground jump downed to go to, and be his 咕咚咕 the 咚 painful
After finishing drinking, have to with the fox together totally the company ascend the well's way.Fox early contain preparation, he to archly say:" I pour to have a
Method.You pick with forepaw on the well wall, again Cape 竖直 , I behind carry on the back to jump up the well to go to from you, and pull you again to come up, we all
Save." the 公 goat agreed his proposal, fox to trample the feet of his empress, and jump he carry top on his back, and then make an effort from the Cape a
Jump, jump outed the mouth of a well.The fox go ups the hereafter, and the preparation alone escape.The 公 goat blames the fox and does not keep the 诺 speech.The fox returns overdo
Say to 公 goat:" hello, friend, beard that you of brains if resemble you are so perfect, you not to the extent of at did not see the pure exit it
Front blindly jump down to go to."
This story elucidation, cleverness of the person should to in advance think it over the affair's result, then just go to do.
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译文:
狐狸和葡萄
饥饿的狐狸看见葡萄架上挂着一串串晶莹剔透的葡萄,口水直流,想要摘下来吃,但又
摘不到。看了一会儿,无可奈何地走了,他边走边自己安慰自己说:“这葡萄没有熟,肯定
是酸的。”
这就是说,有些人能力小,做不成事,就借口说时机未成熟。
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狼与鹭鸶
狼误吞下了一块骨头,十分难受,四处奔走,寻访医生。他遇见了鹭鸶,谈定酬金请他取出骨头,鹭鸶把自己的头伸进狼的喉咙里,叼出了骨头,便向狼要定好的酬金。狼回答说:“喂,朋友,你能从狼嘴里平安无事地收回头来,难道还不满足,怎么还要讲报酬?”
这故事说明,对坏人行善的报酬,就是认识坏人不讲信用的.本质。
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小男孩与蝎子
有个小孩在城墙前捉蚱蜢,一会儿就捉了许多。忽然看见一只蝎子,他以为也是蚱蜢,
便着两手去捕捉他。蝎子举起他的毒刺,说道:“来吧,如果你真敢这样做,就连你捉的蚱蜢也会统统失掉。”
这故事告诫人们,要分辨清好人和坏人,区别对待他们。
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掉在井里的狐狸和公山羊
一只狐狸失足掉到了井里,不论他如何挣扎仍没法爬上去,只好呆在那里。公山羊觉得
口渴极了,来到这井边,看见狐狸在井下,便问他井水好不好喝?狐狸觉得机会来了,心中
暗喜,马上镇静下来,极力赞美井水好喝,说这水是天下第一泉,清甜爽口,并劝山羊赶快
下来,与他痛饮。一心只想喝水信以为真的山羊,便不假思索地跳了下去,当他咕咚咕咚痛
饮完后,就不得不与狐狸一起共商上井的办法。狐狸早有准备,他狡猾地说:“我倒有一个
方法。你用前脚扒在井墙上,再把角竖直了,我从你后背跳上井去,再拉你上来,我们就都
得救了。”公山羊同意了他的提议,狐狸踩着他的后脚,跳到他背上,然后再从角上用力一
跳,跳出了井口。狐狸上去以后,准备独自逃离。公山羊指责狐狸不信守诺言。狐狸回过头
对公山羊说:“喂,朋友,你的头脑如果像你的胡须那样完美,你就不至于在没看清出口之
前就盲目地跳下去。”
这故事说明,聪明的人应当事先考虑清楚事情的结果,然后才去做。
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漫画中,第一个孩子先因考100分得到一个吻的奖赏,后因考98分得到一个耳光的责罚;第二个孩子先因考55分被赐一个掌印,后因考61分被赏一个吻。看罢漫画,不禁深思,仅因一时分数升降便或奖或罚,实在失之偏颇。其实,孩子就像正在成长的树,他取得的成绩就像一片片的叶子,实在不必因孩子之树上长出一片好看的叶子而欣喜若狂,更不必因长出一片不太好看的叶子而全盘否定甚至大打出手,切勿因一叶而障目。
孩子的成长中,不只有学习,不只有分数,还应该有“诗和远方”。但是在唯分数论的大语境下,孩子被要求拼命追求分数的提升,不能有丝毫退步,甚至被苛求次次满分。这和饲养速成鸡有何区别呢?让鸡不会生病,只在激素、饲料的作用下疯长速成,这是违背规律的。孩子的成长需要经历幸福,更需要经受困难挫折,他在学习过程中要懂得付出汗水,也要懂得不是每一次努力之后都能立刻进步,懂得进步未必能立刻体现在成绩上,懂得成绩起伏本就是正常现象,只有持续努力,不断积蓄力量,才能成就更好的自己,从而开出人生之花,结出人生之果。父母作为孩子生命中最重要的人,怎能如此随意地唯分数而无视对孩子全面的评判?孩子似树,成绩如叶,家长勿因一叶而障目。
与此相似,在中国,拥有升学压力的中小学学校,很多时候也会因成绩这一叶而障目。比如在评价教师上较为片面,常只看教师所带班某学期某学段末尾的成绩来评判一个教师,往往看不到教师平时的努力付出与血泪辛酸,更难以理解绝大多数挣扎在教学一线的教师之苦。同样的,教师的教学不只有分数,还应该有理解与赏识,还应该有“诗和远方”。教师似树,成绩如叶,学校勿因一叶而障目。
再有,商人逐利本无可厚非,若眼中只有所要得的利益的这张成绩单,会因这如一叶的成绩单而障目,看不到理应有的诚信,看不到理应有的良知,看不到商人逐利活动之上理应高悬的“义”,才有地沟油、毒奶粉、假疫苗等骇人听闻的事件。再如,过分注重GDP数值的成绩单,而忽视国民文明水平的整体提升、道德素养的丰富等更重要的问题。这些都是因为太看重利益成绩单而导致的容易一叶障目的结果。成绩、利益如叶,切勿因一叶而障目。
当然,人不免受局限为外物蒙蔽,任何事物也都需要有一定的量化的衡量标准,但是不能光看到数值而看不到全面与整体,而可以有更全面多元的评价标准与评判方式,方能更好地避免一叶障目。
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