夜幕降临,在黑龙江绥化市望奎县城的广场上,“烤肠、烤面筋、烤肉串啦!”一连串清脆的叫卖声打破了喧嚣。身着红格罩衫、身高不足1米5的女孩高雨欣,每天这个时候都要和妈妈卖烧烤。这个11岁的女孩,在家庭陷入困境时,搂着妈妈的脖子说:“妈妈,咱家我顶着。”从此,她用柔弱的肩膀扛起了全家人生活的担子,成了家里的顶梁柱。11岁的女孩,应该是爱笑、爱玩、爱打扮的年纪,但是高雨欣一点都没有玩耍的时间。
高中的花销很大,她主动跟妈妈说:“我不念了,咱们两个一起赚钱,供妹妹上学。如果有一天,你干不动了,那我来养你们。”毕业考试的成绩出来了,高雨欣考了全县第一名。晚上,妈妈要给高雨欣一根烤肠吃,高雨欣说:“我想吃烤肠,但我不能吃,还指着这个卖钱呢!”在妈妈的再三坚持下,高雨欣才吃了一根香肠。
想想看,我们是不是有很多可以做的呢?在学校我们要努力学习,在家里我们要孝敬父母,多做家务,以报答父母的养育之恩。
持有旋转烤肉式认识论(灌输、堆砌知识的父母认为,多记住一些东西是很重要的。在他们眼里,小孩尽可能高效地掌握海量的知识是一件再好不过的事。父母、亲人仅单纯对孩子记住的诗歌、单词等大加赞赏,甚至给予物质奖励,而不去鼓励孩子去探究和发现更深层的知识,长此以往,小孩慢慢地开始觉得,相比于做自己喜欢的事,用语言记录并记住大量的知识片段更为重要。这样一来,小孩从小就习惯了要记住学到的东西,并认为这是理所应当的事,却丢失了与生俱来的自主发现的能力。
我们大部分父母,都停留在对孩子灌输、堆砌知识的层面上,因为我们本身已经习惯于用“系统1”对待几乎任何事,对各种信息、知识不予思索,或被动接受,或充耳不闻,没有能力对其进行消化分析,新知识不能在我们已僵化的系统中进行动态更新。
而持有探究性认识论的探究者,针对各种各样的现象,会主动提出“为什么”,主动去发现知识,去使用知识,让它成为自己身体和系统的一部分,并和系统共同变化。探究者的培养,基本上也是从如何培养这样的认识论开始的。
如果父母本身就是持有探究性认识论的探究者,那么小孩持有同样认识论的可能性会很高。那些不关注自己的小孩,认为好的、值得期待的培养方法只有一种的父母,与那些细心观察小孩,与小孩共同成长,并思考更好的(不是最好的途径的父母,育儿的方法自然大相径庭。
所以,父母必须做到亲自积累探究经验,品味其中的乐趣,并使之成为习惯。
孝心,如同一场春雨,滋润着荒芜的大地;孝心,如同冬季天上的一个太阳给人温暖;孝心如同黑夜里的一轮明月,给人光明;因为有了孝心,让我们的世界充满了爱!今日学校组织观看“最美孝心少年”。视频。我看了之后心境久久不能平复。
剧中的主人公一一徐煜岑。他的妈妈,因为一次意外。看着沉睡的妈妈,他不知流了多少泪,他无助,他悲伤,但他从未想过放弃!他把要说的话用录音笔放给妈妈听,最终功夫不负有心人,妈妈醒了!可是妈妈她丧失了语言功能,那时仅有八岁的锦锦的世界,如同晴天霹雳一般一一崩塌了!小小的他应对如此的妈妈。他慌乱!他无助!。但他想起了小时候妈妈与他的点点滴滴、妈妈反反复复一遍又一遍的教他说话!于是,锦锦下定决心必须要教会妈妈说话!他想:妈妈小时候教我说话。此刻该我教他说话了。他又开始一个音,一个字,慢慢地教:“a”妈妈也跟着说“a”虽然在学说话的过程,总是磕磕绊绊,充满困难。可是锦锦还是坚持了三年。这三年来,锦锦,每一天晚上都会出一百道数学题给妈妈做。晚上认真地批改,这三年锦锦给妈妈出的数学题足足有一百本!这需要多大的毅力呀!我被深深震撼了!我们此刻这些子女,很少有孩子为父母付出这么多。像锦锦这样的孩子,已经是凤毛麟角了。他每一天一放学就立马飞奔回家,生怕失去妈妈。因为,他觉得有妈妈在,就是幸福的。我不明白他的妈妈能否痊愈,但我衷心为这个孩子祈祷,期望他的妈妈早日痊愈。他所求的幸福是淳朴的、单纯的,不用太高要求。而我们呢?我们总想着向父母
索取,一心只想自我,从未想过父母,而锦锦一个心思都扑在妈妈身上。我们应当向他学习!
正如电视上“金龟子”刘纯燕姐姐所说“尽孝,在有空的时候陪陪爸妈,牢记他们的生日,这是尽孝。”没错,尽孝单单纯纯地只是生活的一点一滴,犹如沙漠里的一粒沙子,渺小而不起眼;尽孝,就犹如茫茫大海中的一滴不起眼的水珠;为父母做一点点的小事,捶捶背,倒倒茶......这就是尽孝。不要做什么伟大的事,是让父母感到我们浓浓地爱,明白我们对他们默默地关心,明白我们在渐渐长大。这,就够了!
I read the Chinese version of “Camille” a few years ago. At that time I was deeply moved by the main character Marguerite Gautier. “Camille” or “The Lady of the Camellias” by Alexandre Dumas, fils, is the story of Marguerite Gautier, a young courtesan, or kept woman, in Paris in the mid 1800's, and how she falls in love with a young man, Armand Duval, and then tries to escape from her questionable past. Unfortunately, it comes back to haunt her and she ends up returning to that life and dies painfully and alone, but with the knowledge that she was a noble woman at heart. When I first began to read the book, I did not care for Marguerite or her attitude or lifestyle, but as I got further into the narrative, I realized that her saucy attitude was a front to cover the lonely woman that she really was. She felt used, abused and unloved, until the gentle Armand Duval came into her life and showed her that he loved her as a person and not for what she could do for him. It must have taken great courage for Marguerite to leave the life she had lived for so long, knowing all along that it was probably too good to be true and would not last indefinitely. And it also showed that Marguerite really loved Armand Duval for she could even change herself for him.
However, happiness didn’t last for long. When M. Duval, Armand's father, came to her, pleading for her to leave Armand to save both Armand's reputation and that of his younger innocent sister, Marguerite saw a way to become pure of heart, if not in body. She felt that it was her duty, because she loved Armand so much, to do this even though it meant giving up her own happiness and hurting Armand temporarily. She reluctantly returned to her former life, knowing that.some day Armand would forgive her. Sadly, she died in debt and basically alone, except for her one female friend, Julie Duprat, who helped her during her illness. She had her journal sent to Armand after her death, explaining why she had made the choices she had. I think Dumas's last few lines about Marguerite being the exception, not the rule were quite true, and I also agreed with his view that while her lifestyle could not be condoned, we as a society assume that all of these type of women are cold and heartless, while this may not always be the case. A person can make the wrong choices in life when they are young, and try to redeem themselves, but sometimes past situations prevent them from changing their lives, even though they desperately wish to do so. This applies to both men and women in many different types of circumstances: involvement in crime; drug or alcohol abuse; gambling; prostitution; financial problems; poor marriage choices; etc. And this is the fact, which exists in the whole society.
As far as the other characters in the book, I think Marguerite was right in saying that no one truly cared about her, but only wanted something from her, the only exceptions being Armand and Julie Duprat. Of course, the Comte de G. and Comte de N. wanted her body and appearance. The
Duke needed to “wake up and smell the coffee” and realize that she could never replace his dead daughter. If he truly cared, he could have helped her leave her lifestyle without “keeping” her himself. And lastly, Prudence was a blood-sucking leech who used Marguerite almost worse than the men. I also think she was jealous of the fact that Marguerite had so much more courage than herself and someone truly loved her.
Last morning, when tiding my bookshelf, I took this book out of the shelf, and a dried flower flew away from the book. It was pale blue, very transparent, with thin fine veins. a dried flower flew away from the book. It was pale blue, very transparent, with thin fine veins. I held it against the morning light and blew on it. The soft breeze carried it away. Camille is just like the camellia, she could never escape from the destiny of withering. But it wasn’t her fault; it’s because of the evil of Capitalism and the hideousness of that society.
Suddenly, I remembered a saying: “Women are like the flowers”. Those pretty women are like those beautiful flowers; their delicate beauty makes people feel they are the miracle of life. However, even the God envies their beauty. It seems that beautiful women always have tragic endings. As we are normal persons, even we can see the hideousness of humanity that results in their fate of withering, we can at most ask quietly in our hearts: Where have those beautiful flowers gone? Where have they gone?
The Life And Adventures Of Robinson Crusoe
It seemed to be such a coincidence that the night after I finished reading The Life And Adventures Of Robinson Crusoe, I was to dine in a restaurant distinctly related to the book itself. This restaurant was no other than the famous American-styled “Friday ’s. ” The reason for mentioning this restaurant is quite straightforward to all the gentlemen, ladies and children who have read the novel and enjoyed it, which is the fact that this restaurant was, most likely, named after the American Native in Robinson Crusoe, called Friday. This restaurant offers very exceptional service, for instance when the waitresses are asked to order dishes they kneel rather than stand, which, unlike the other restaurants I have been to, makes it easier for the customers to hear them speak. Moreover, Friday’s friendly services to the customers help them to make better choices when ordering dishes. I remembered when I went to Friday ’s last time; the waitress kindly described the items on the menu with precise details. It turned out that the combo I initially wanted was designed to be shared among a large group, not to be eaten by one person. I think this restaurant shows many commendable features similar to that of Friday. Friday brought emotional warmth to the people around him with his appealing personality. I think it was this personality that affected Crusoe and made him say that he loved Friday when Crusoe didn ’t express love for his parents, brothers, sisters, or even his wife. “When he espied me, he came running to me, laying himself down again upon the ground, with all the possible signs of an humble, thankful disposition, making many antic gestures to show it to let me know how he would serve me as long as he lived.” This was what Friday did after Crusoe had rescued him from the two savages chasing him. It was easy for me to see why Crusoe had loved Friday. After sometime, Crusoe and Friday were to rescue Friday’s father. When Friday reunited with his father, the scene was easy to move anyone: “It would have moved anyone to tears to have seen how Friday kissed him, embraced him, hugged him, cried, laughed, halloed, jumped about, danced,
sung; and then sung and jumped about again, like a distracted creature. It was a good while before I could make him speak to me.” This is my favourite chapter in the whole book. It is hard to see why Friday is an ex-savage when he can have personalities more praiseworthy than many civilized people, viz. Crusoe himself. “When he (Friday went to him (Friday’s father, he would sit down by him, open his breast, and hold his father’s head close to his bosom, half an hour together, to nourish it; then he took his arms and ankles, which were numbed and stiff with the binding, and rubbed them with his hands.” Furthermore, Friday’s expression of loyalty in asking Crusoe to kill him rather than leave him is more heartfelt than anything Crusoe ever says or does.
Crusoe, on the absolute contrary, seems incapable of deep feelings, as shown by his account of leaving his family—he never shows any emotions. After a moving lecture from Robinson’s father about his future, he still decided to follow his own wandering ambition. Careless was he about the wishes of his parents to keep him alive and prosperous, as he was the only child left in the family. When he came back from the island which he had lived on for twenty eight years, he found that it had been too late to tell his parents that he was still alive, but yet again he did not feel sorry for them; he also did not feel sorry for the two people who had to live in misery for nearly thirty years under the allusion all of their sons were dead. He had the same feelings for his wife: when he was married, he said it was “not either to my disadvantage or dissatisfaction”, implying that it was also neither to his advantage nor his satisfaction. Moreover, after his wife died, Robinson did not think of looking after the three children they had, but went back to the island, which he had lived on for twenty-eight years. It was on this trip which Robinson Crusoe revisited “His Island ” as he called it. I feel that Robinson ’s indifference to his family is almost emotionally cruel.
Before had clearly shown the contrast between Crusoe’s and Friday’s personalities, as when Friday, in his joyful reunion with his father, displayed far more emotion toward his family members than Crusoe, whereas Crusoe never mentions missing his family or dreams about the happiness of seeing them again. I think Defore is very successful in introducing Friday as part of the novel, it makes the whole novel seem much more complete and gripping to the reader, as well as proving that Defoe’s ideology of racism is civilized unlike many other Europeans at that time; natives and savages are not worse than others but can perhaps even be more modern and civilized. Those are the reasons of why I like The Life And Adventures Of Robinson Crusoe and Friday.
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