诚然,在现实生活中,自己也曾做过许多像那位女士一样滑稽可笑的事:只顾寻得他人的缺点和不足,丝毫未看到自家的窗户却是那么的腌臜肮脏,正应了那两句俗话:自己一身白毛,却说别人是妖;乌鸦落到猪身上,只看见别人黑,看不见自己黑。还记得爸爸时常对我说的一句话:“当你犯错误的时候,不要只为自己寻找借口。只有当你领悟到毛病最终出在你身上时,你才算真正认识到了错误。”那时自己还小,并不真正明白爸爸这句话的.内涵。随着时间的流逝,自己慢慢长大,这句话也就深深印在了我心里。
“人非圣贤,孰能无过?”关键是你犯错之后,能否深刻认识问题症结所在和错误产生的根源。想必月考成绩发下来时,退步较大的同学们心里都很难过吧,可又有谁真的静下心来好好想一想这个问题:为什么会这样?“没有”这个词我不敢替大家说,但自己却的确是这样!当父母问我缘由时,我清晰的记得只是找了一大堆客观的原因,例如新环境、新老师的不适应等等,而真正的主观原因却只字不提,甚至也可以说是连想都没想,最多找一些诸如“有点粗心什么”的借口,轻描淡写敷衍一下。仔细想想,这到头来还不是自己骗自己吗!一遇到挫折和失败,就把原因往别人身上推,这不明摆着就是自欺欺人吗?
西楚霸王项羽的故事相信大家都有所了解吧,不少人都为他最后那“不肯过江东”的“霸”气(实为“傻气”!)所折服,而我却认为他是个仅有“匹夫之勇”的莽夫罢了。如果他在大破秦军之后能够收服人心的话,也不会落个乌江自刎的结局。然而他没有,他自以为拥有四十万大军,自矜功伐,根本没有把刘邦放在眼里,以致到后来陷入四面楚歌的绝境时,仍在对天高喊:“此天之亡我,非战之罪也。”想想看,西楚霸王是不是和上文那个女士一样滑稽可笑呢?
你家的窗户擦净了吗?这个问题看似简单,回答起来却不是那么容易。因此,当你想嘲笑他人的时候,请你还是先看一下自家的窗户是否明亮吧!
若琳很活跃,热情而主动,非常有爆发力和夸张的天分,我看到她就想起坝上营的菜鸟,同样是外向型性格的典型。这样的孩子通常有很好的影响力。
但是,若琳妈妈有她的担忧。晚餐时,我们坐在一起,聊了很长时间。
她说若琳是一个不会冷场并能带着别人一起玩的孩子。但她很容易急躁,情绪直白,常让别人不舒服,如果别人不符合她的期望,她就很着急,直接的说别人。若琳妈说,我提醒过她要注意对别人的态度。可是收效甚微。
我说,如果是我,我不会提醒她注意对待别人的态度。这对于孩子来说有点抽象。我可能会提醒她:并不是所有人都和你一样,你感觉很容易的东西别人可能很难,你已经很熟练的东西别人可能依然很陌生,你感觉理所当然的`事情别人可能有其自己的考虑。
若琳妈说,若琳有时候又很敏感,很在意我对她的态度,即便我什么也没说,只是看看她,她也会说,又怎么了,又不高兴了?我又没做错什么。
我说,这说明你对她的接纳可能还不够,尤其是对她的性格和常见的做法。事实上,任何一种性格都是中性的,有其长也必有其短。我们无法改变孩子的性格,但你可以教给孩子怎么使用自己的性格。
比如说,孩子情绪很非常外露且不好掩饰,那么我们在接受这种性格的同时,应该给提高她相应的和能力。比如,晚上当你掉队不超过一分钟时,若琳就非常惊慌和担忧,眼泪如断线珍珠簌簌而下,这时我们其实提醒她不必这么担忧和着急,妈妈可能就在离我们不足三十米的地方,可能就在很短的时间内出现在我们面前。而不是说她“干吗动不动就哭”。
人的命运由“命”和“运”构成,命是人生的格局,很难改变,但是运是我们的应对和把握,大有可为。比如你们家的房子,它的位置和面积是固定的,但是你可以装修和布置,可以很邋遢也可以很整洁,可以很别扭也可以很舒适,而且你还能修门前的路,可以在院子里栽种花草在房子里饲养金鱼或者白猫。同是一座房子,但却可以大不一样。
ps:父母对孩子接纳不够,常常是因为父母对自己不够接纳,父母对自己不够接纳又常常可以追溯到当初自己的父母对自己的不完全接纳。代际循环是人们成长的隐性线索。
Do you ever watch movies from other countries? Whenever I do, I think about how similar people really are all around the world. Even though the cultures and languages in those movies are different from mine, people all around the world are alike in their goals and emotions.
One time, I saw a movie made in china that showed parents helping their children with their homework. . My parents helped me the same way. Another time I saw a movie from Argentina. It showed school children playing hide and seek, which is a game I used to play with my friends during recess. Seeing these films demonstrated to me that education is a common goal in every country. Parents want their children to learn so their lives will improve. It also showed me that children in schools everywhere wants to play with their friends. Sometimes the games are similar to ours and sometimes they’re different. Still, they all have the common purpose of fun and learning to work together.
Earning a living is another common goal. I’ve often seen that in movies about other countries. In some countries, people choose their careers from what they like and are good at. In other countries, careers are chosen for them following the traditions of their families. But in every country it seems that people care a great deal about earning a living, and working hard is respected.
Showing people having fun together is always an important part of any movies, no matter what country it comes from. People everywhere want to be entertained, and want to spend time with their families and friends. Different cultures sometimes enjoy different activities, but all cultures enjoy some form of sports, music and dancing.
The movies I’ve seen make it clear to me that no matter the cultural differences between countries, people everywhere have the same basic needs and goals.
上周,我妈妈要去看望我爷爷奶奶两天,所以她让我一个人呆在家里照顾好自己。我很高兴并答应她会照顾好一切的。我终于可以独自生活了。因此,我睡得很晚,也玩了很长时间的电脑游戏,饿的`时候,我就点外卖。妈妈回来的时候,她非常的惊讶,因为房子乱七八糟。我知道我不能照顾好自己。
Life has its ups and downs, and only true friends always stay around. Like anyone else, I have got many friends. They often help me when I’m in trouble. Especially, when I fail in an examination, they always care for me and encourage me to study harder. Last year, when I was hurt in a basketball game, my friends took me to the nearby hospital at once and look after me by turns. In my eyes, friends are the most precious wealth that one should treasure all his life.
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