我家熙熙刚四岁,都让我误以为已经到了青春期,“顶嘴”和“抬杠”已经成了家常便饭。对照此书反思,我发现自己对孩子有过分娇宠之嫌,经常迫于她哭闹的压力而放弃原则,答应了一些不合理的要求,进而让她变得越来越任性。
自我总结与调整就是,首先保证不情绪化,不和孩子对抗,要平等相处,注意说话的技巧,不使用命令语气,时刻表达爱。另外,不要盲目批评孩子,不在公众场合批评孩子。
“真正的威信来自于言行合一的言传身教,来自于对底线和原则的坚持。”
每个孩子都是一个独立的个体,所以要“因材施教”。让猴子和鱼比游泳,对猴子不公平;让鱼和猴子比爬树,对鱼不公平。“知足常乐,教育孩子的过程切忌‘比’,每个父母不一样,每个孩子也各有特点,人与人之间不存在可比性,适合自己的方式就是最好的方式。”
所以,千万不要让“别人家的孩子”,成为自己孩子的梦魇。
总体看来,全书干货满满,有许多发人深省的地方,但并没有改掉许多畅销书固有的臭毛病,比如标点符号误用、病句、词不达意、论据堆砌、叙述啰嗦重复凑篇幅等等。
不过,你不能要求一个镁光灯下的女明星卸了妆,让你看细节。毕竟,对很多人来说,能登上舞台,已经是一个遥不可及的梦想。从这个意义上讲,此书已经足够优秀。
September 16
Dear Zhang Hong,
How is everything with you I hope things are going well.
There is not much news here.I just go to work every morning and come back to my apartment every night.Shanghai is crowded with people,but I don\'t really know any of them.I don\'t like the city,but my job is quite interesting,and the pay is quite good.
What are your plans for National Day If you don\'t have anything special,I hope you can visit Shanghai.Come and share my apartment.It is quite large and it is near the theatres,museums and stores.
Write soon,and say you can spend the holiday here.
Sincerely yours
Li Hua
September 25
Dear Li Hua,
Thank you for your letter dated September 16.It wasn\'t until yesterday that I got it,as I had been out on business for a week.
In your letter,you told me that you preferred your job to the city of Shanghai.In my opinion,Shanghai is an exciting and a beautiful place.Try to enjoy yourself in your spare time besides your devotion to work.
I\'m sorry to say that I won\'t go to Shanghai because our school will hold an open-air party.I have to stay for the performances on the holiday.By the way,would you please come and join us in the party Hangzhou is so beautiful in autumn that I\'m sure you will like it.
Yours
Zhang Hong
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