03 倾听 愤怒 感激
这些评价其实暗藏着自己的价值观和需求,对别人是不公平的,即使对方做出让步也并非心甘情愿。
指责、批评、评论其实暗含着我们对他人期待。其实是在间接的表达我们尚未满足的需求。如果通过指责的方式表达,对方常常会申辩或反击。所以最好的方法是直接说出我们的需求。
02非暴力沟通的四要素
Mr Gao lives in a town .When he was twenty-five ,his son was born .He calls him Gao Ling .The little boy is clever .He and his wife love him very much .
It’s September 1today .A few school year begins Gao Ling is happy and wears his most beautiful clothes .He’s going to school with his new bag .
“Let me take you to school ,dear ,”said Mrs Gao .
“Thank you ,mummy ,”said the boy .“The school isn’t far from here .I can go there myself .”
At school a teacher met the little boy and asked ,“What’s your name ,my little friend ?”
“Gao Ling ,sir ,”answered the boy .
“How old are you ?”
“Six ,sir .”
“What’s your father’s name ?”
“Gao Dalin ,sir .”
“How old is he ?”
“Oh ,”the teacher said in surprise .“Is he as old as you ?”
“Yes ,sir ,”said the boy .“He became a father only on that day when I was born .”
我和我的'父亲一样老
高先生住在一个小镇上。他二十五岁时,他的儿子是天生的。他把他叫做高岭。这个小男孩很聪明。他和他的妻子非常爱他。
这是九月1今天。新学年开始高岭是快乐的,穿着最漂亮的衣服。他将背着他的新书包上学去。
“让我带你去学校,亲爱的,说:”高夫人。
“谢谢您,妈妈,”男孩说。“学校离这儿不远。我可以自己到那儿去的。”
在学校,老师遇到了小男孩问道,“你叫什么名字,我的小朋友?“
“高岭,先生,”男孩回答。
你多大了?“
“六,先生。”
你爸爸叫什么名字?“
“高大林,先生。”
他多大年纪了?“
“哦,”老师吃惊的说。“他和你一样大吗?“
“是的,先生,”男孩说。“他父亲只在那一天,当我是天生的。”
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