若琳很活跃,热情而主动,非常有爆发力和夸张的天分,我看到她就想起坝上营的菜鸟,同样是外向型性格的典型。这样的孩子通常有很好的影响力。
但是,若琳妈妈有她的担忧。晚餐时,我们坐在一起,聊了很长时间。
她说若琳是一个不会冷场并能带着别人一起玩的孩子。但她很容易急躁,情绪直白,常让别人不舒服,如果别人不符合她的期望,她就很着急,直接的说别人。若琳妈说,我提醒过她要注意对别人的态度。可是收效甚微。
我说,如果是我,我不会提醒她注意对待别人的态度。这对于孩子来说有点抽象。我可能会提醒她:并不是所有人都和你一样,你感觉很容易的东西别人可能很难,你已经很熟练的东西别人可能依然很陌生,你感觉理所当然的`事情别人可能有其自己的考虑。
若琳妈说,若琳有时候又很敏感,很在意我对她的态度,即便我什么也没说,只是看看她,她也会说,又怎么了,又不高兴了?我又没做错什么。
我说,这说明你对她的接纳可能还不够,尤其是对她的性格和常见的做法。事实上,任何一种性格都是中性的,有其长也必有其短。我们无法改变孩子的性格,但你可以教给孩子怎么使用自己的性格。
比如说,孩子情绪很非常外露且不好掩饰,那么我们在接受这种性格的同时,应该给提高她相应的和能力。比如,晚上当你掉队不超过一分钟时,若琳就非常惊慌和担忧,眼泪如断线珍珠簌簌而下,这时我们其实提醒她不必这么担忧和着急,妈妈可能就在离我们不足三十米的地方,可能就在很短的时间内出现在我们面前。而不是说她“干吗动不动就哭”。
人的命运由“命”和“运”构成,命是人生的格局,很难改变,但是运是我们的应对和把握,大有可为。比如你们家的房子,它的位置和面积是固定的,但是你可以装修和布置,可以很邋遢也可以很整洁,可以很别扭也可以很舒适,而且你还能修门前的路,可以在院子里栽种花草在房子里饲养金鱼或者白猫。同是一座房子,但却可以大不一样。
ps:父母对孩子接纳不够,常常是因为父母对自己不够接纳,父母对自己不够接纳又常常可以追溯到当初自己的父母对自己的不完全接纳。代际循环是人们成长的隐性线索。
After watching this movie, the heart can not be calm, it let me see the heros optimistic, strong, confident and never give up, but also understand the worlds apathy, helpless and uneasy. The cause of the failure, his wife abandoned, life distress and defeat Chris, on the contrary, the suffering experience made him become more self-confidence, he never give up faith, in trouble, finally it comes to firmly grasp their own happiness.
How could we not be so in our life? Life is a long journey, and no one on this journey is smooth sailing, and no one can predict what will happen on this journey But one thing we can believe is that when God closes a door for you, she opens a window for you.
This story reminds me of the scene thirteen years ago. Thirteen years ago, just graduated, I left home with longing and hope, came to the provincial capital of Jinan, then only in the pocket of my mother gave me one hundred yuan. After a lot of trouble, I found a job of selling commodities for a trading company. Every day carrying a packet of small streets, hard to imagine. The scene of the first customer rejection, the scene of being scolded by the customer for the first time, a man hiding in the corner crying...
Still fresh in memory. That experience made me realize that when were in trouble, letting go of our self will only make us worse, and we can get nothing except a little sympathy. On the contrary, this is the moment we make efforts, energy savings, firm belief, lock the target, hold on and never give up, you can in the happiness comes and firmly grasp her. No one has ever been alone. Recently, a colleague has passed his own effort to enter a financial institution in the city. In the eyes of everyone, he is a lucky man. But perhaps no one saw the hard work he did in the process. In this world, everything is a process from quantitative change to qualitative change. When we envy other peoples luck, we may not see how much others pay in the process When were watching TV, when were having fun, when were chatting......
Perhaps others are studying business, perhaps is study of professional knowledge, perhaps is to fight to win or die......
We often see the success of others, but rarely see the hardships of others behind the success. One hundred people, one hundred people, different lifestyles, there are one hundred different interpretations of happiness, you choose what kind of life, what kind of action. So dont blindly envy others success, if you want to succeed, if you want to decide your own happiness, it starts from a little bit, starting from your nearest goal, adhere to! Insist! Insist again!
When one day happiness knocks at the door, you can catch her without hesitation, and then you will also become the lucky person in the eyes of others. In daily work, we should always remind ourselves, when happiness knocks at the door, are you really ready?
秋姑娘悄悄地来到我的床前,我从被窝里探出小脑袋,哇!一阵桂花香味扑鼻而来,再瞧瞧桌子上堆满秋姑娘带的礼物,我心里有说不出的喜悦。秋姑娘指着一袋白花花的面粉说:田野里是一派丰收的景象,有红红的高粱笑弯了腰,金黄色的`麦子也成熟了,这面粉就是农民伯伯收割的麦子做成的。它又指着各种各样的水果说:果园里瓜果飘香,有橙橙的苹果、黄黄的鸭梨,还有又红又软的柿子……秋姑娘又兴奋地对我说:瞧我还给你带啥?哇!这不是我的最爱螃蟹呀。秋姑娘自豪地说:我一吹风螃蟹就是最美味最结实了。中午我们美美地吃了一顿面粉做成的饺子和又肥又大的螃蟹。接着我带着秋姑娘观赏了我们小区的秋景:红红的枫叶飘落下来,给小路铺上红地毯;黄黄的银杏树叶像一把把小扇子,飘呀飘,天空满天飞舞着黄蝴蝶……夕阳下山了,我目送着秋姑娘离去。
呼呼,一阵阵秋风吹来,让我感到一丝丝寒意。哦!我知道了:秋姑娘匆匆地离去,冬姑娘悄悄地快要来了!
秋姑娘悄悄地来到我的床前,我从被窝里探出小脑袋,哇!一阵桂花香味扑鼻而来,再瞧瞧桌子上堆满秋姑娘带的礼物,我心里有说不出的喜悦。秋姑娘指着一袋白花花的面粉说:田野里是一派丰收的景象,有红红的高粱笑弯了腰,金黄色的麦子也成熟了,这面粉就是农民伯伯收割的麦子做成的。它又指着各种各样的水果说:果园里瓜果飘香,有橙橙的苹果、黄黄的鸭梨,还有又红又软的柿子……秋姑娘又兴奋地对我说:瞧我还给你带啥?哇!这不是我的最爱螃蟹呀。秋姑娘自豪地说:我一吹风螃蟹就是最美味最结实了。中午我们美美地吃了一顿面粉做成的饺子和又肥又大的螃蟹。接着我带着秋姑娘观赏了我们小区的秋景:红红的枫叶飘落下来,给小路铺上红地毯;黄黄的银杏树叶像一把把小扇子,飘呀飘,天空满天飞舞着黄蝴蝶……夕阳下山了,我目送着秋姑娘离去。
呼呼,一阵阵秋风吹来,让我感到一丝丝寒意。哦!我知道了:秋姑娘匆匆地离去,冬姑娘悄悄地快要来了!
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